Nobody is talking about marriage!! I dont even know how this all turned into her maybe or maybe not getting married. I was honestly just worried about him forgetting her and leaving her wasting time waiting for him.....to go back to spending time together/dating. I would hate for her to miss out on parties/prom/events waiting for someone who will not return. Just wanted to know if anyone else experienced this. Nobody is getting married!! Im 1000000% sure neither one of them are thinking of it, especially her who just watched her brother date a girl 10 years before getting married. He would have waited 5 more if he had his way!
But WHY do you feel like he will forget about her? Where is that coming from? He is in Marine boot camp, yes? He's literally surrounded by just other guys 24/7. He probably talks about your daughter ALL the time, as do all the other guys. There are no other women around to fraternize with. He is probably thinking about your daughter more than you think. Boot camp is a hard time. Recruits hang tightly onto the people who bring them comfort. You can't expect communications from him on any sort of regular schedule. The purpose of boot camp is to isolate these recruits, essentially mentally break them down and build them back up again. Trust me, once he is done, he will likely be DYING to see your daughter again. I suspect he worries far more about HER forgetting about him.
Just detach yourself from any responsibility in this relationship. Let your daughter and him navigate it themselves. Be there for her IF it breaks down.
By the way, my husband is the current operations officer for the Boot Camp in San Diego. Covid has made things much more difficult from the perspective of family being able to attend graduations and visiting during graduation weekend. Recruits are no longer given their time off after boot camp, and must go directly to their MOS schools. It is tough on everyone, but the good news is that once they are at their specialty schools, things relax quite a bit and they can have visitors. So, if your daughter can travel to wherever he goes to school, she can visit with him on a weekend.
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