JanaDee said:What makes my relationship "tick" is treating my husband like an adult and expecting him to act like one.
To turn it around, how often does you husband thank you for doing the dishes or the laundry or the multitude of other daily things it takes to run a household?
I let go of A LOT of things for the good of the marriage/family - thanking an adult for doing an expected chore isn't one of them.
Well, I could decline to answer since I'm not on trial here, but since I am proud of what DH and I have built over the years, I have to say that he thanks me All The Time for everything I do. Even the small stuff. Its called appreciation. We have it for each other. We both understand that we both work hard. A lot of times he will say out of the blue "thank you for being such a good mom" when I do something that, to me, is ordinary. But he knows and I know why he says it and It means a LOT more than a surface thanks.
I've never even thought "I expect my DH to act like an adult and I will treat him like one". That sounds so sad to me. But I guess I can see how it needs to be thought in some relationahips. I'm glad its not neccessary in mine.