Happyinwonerland
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DD 5 is in a mixed-age troop. We have 20 girls, daisies all the way up to cadettes. This is our first year in girl scouts.
As you are probably aware, it is cookie season. We have done a few booths, and the troop leader's 9 year old daughter is at them all, because only the leader and her husband run the booths. Which is fine, except DD feels very unwelcome. This 9 year old is very controlling and seems to think that she is the end all be all cookie authority. If DD tries to put, say, the thin mints next to the smores, she'll push DD aside and say "No, the thin mints go by the peanut butter patties!" Or she tells DD she faced the box the wrong way. Or if a customer tells us what they want, and DD goes to get it for them, she'll push her aside and grab it .
She has made a few comments in front of us like "I wish I could do the booths alone" and "I should get all the credit for the boxes sold since the little kids aren't helping much". It really hurts DDs feeling, and she has cried over it.
I'd like to say something to the troop leader, because the bullying isn't fair, but I don't want to cause conflict. I want girl scouts to be a positive experience for DD and everyone involved.
So, how would you all handle this? If they were the same age I would probably be more hand off, but this is a 9 year old pushing a 5 year old around, and I don't think its a fair match.
Edited to add: Normally this kid is well behaved and plays nicely with dd and the other younger kids, so I think the competition to win the cookie sales prizes is what is driving this behavior.
As you are probably aware, it is cookie season. We have done a few booths, and the troop leader's 9 year old daughter is at them all, because only the leader and her husband run the booths. Which is fine, except DD feels very unwelcome. This 9 year old is very controlling and seems to think that she is the end all be all cookie authority. If DD tries to put, say, the thin mints next to the smores, she'll push DD aside and say "No, the thin mints go by the peanut butter patties!" Or she tells DD she faced the box the wrong way. Or if a customer tells us what they want, and DD goes to get it for them, she'll push her aside and grab it .
She has made a few comments in front of us like "I wish I could do the booths alone" and "I should get all the credit for the boxes sold since the little kids aren't helping much". It really hurts DDs feeling, and she has cried over it.
I'd like to say something to the troop leader, because the bullying isn't fair, but I don't want to cause conflict. I want girl scouts to be a positive experience for DD and everyone involved.
So, how would you all handle this? If they were the same age I would probably be more hand off, but this is a 9 year old pushing a 5 year old around, and I don't think its a fair match.
Edited to add: Normally this kid is well behaved and plays nicely with dd and the other younger kids, so I think the competition to win the cookie sales prizes is what is driving this behavior.