Count me as another who has read and reread (and then read again) your post and still can't understand what you're saying. You're saying we
shouldn't call someone out for butt grabbing? But we should all carry hatpins? I'm not following.
In this day and age you SHOULD call someone out for butt grabbing and use that camera on your smart phone while you are at it. In
my day (and that of my mother's AND grandmother's) a hat pin sufficed.
Sorry I wasn't clear enough in my other post. I, at times, forget the lifestyles and mores of other generations.
By the time I was a teenager most of us had already learned that the police were pretty stretched out manpower wise and as ...children we might not be believed. That and a few other factors that went along with my reality.
Other figures of authority knew that as well which better explains why the driver stopped at an unauthorised locale to let the pedophile off the bus. And the thinking of that time also explained why an impromptu group of us walked the young lady home. Her parents
might have blamed her mental or physical disability or sex for what happened to her and people of her generation needed to explain this was not the case.
As well because as young ladies of a certain period we were already tired of the flashers and other perverts who accidentally on purpose invaded our "personal space". When this happened I was probably a high school sophomore or junior of 13 or 14 years (I skipped 2 grades earlier on) and wasn't even remotely interested in being part of a gang. Just an aware young person amongst others frustrated by life's realities which dinna always jib with the Disneyfication of the Grimm's, Andersen's or Lang's fairy tales.
School children spontaneously physically assaulting a physical assaulter? That's rich with irony. Unless you just think that saying "No" to a perfect stranger is the answer to every question or the "Lord of the Flies" was an everyday occurrence.To be transparently clear, this wasn't Joe the ne'er do well from the local corner but a complete stranger who felt it was his right before going to school/work to terrorize an unknown woman.
My granddaughter is 12 years old and still has never traversed the city solo. She has no problem grabbing either of her parents' or grandparents' hands when signaled to whilst walking down the street. I enjoy her innocence immensely yet inwardly wonder if we are doing her a disservice on another level. She will not be getting a hatpin on her 13th birthday and I hope it doesn't come back to bite me. Oh and I'm still fortunate and happy my grandmother gave me a hatpin during my youth since it fit in perfectly to the times. Speak to any of your grandmothers or great-grandmothers about this time when women were routinely blamed for any sex crime they were victims of and you'll better understand that this was a common practice. Or just read this link about a Smithsonian exhibit that details the usage of hat pins in an even earlier than my time period:
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/hist...-couldnt-handle-20th-century-woman-180951219/