bethbuchall
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- Jul 10, 2003
My parents paid for just about everything for my wedding. But to be honest, the wedding itself was more for them than for me. I would have been just as happy to have had a family only ceremony and maybe dinner out. My husband and I did pay for the honeymoon.
My older son had a wedding a year and a half ago. We paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave them a check to be used however they wanted to use it. His wife's parents paid for quite a bit of the wedding, but I don't know exactly how much. It was a very simple wedding and there weren't a lot of guests, but I know that things still added up. She doesn't like cut flowers, so we made all the flowers from paper. She and her mother did most of that work, though I helped a couple of times. They made their own invitations and decorations, too.
My daughter has said that she's not planning a wedding and would be happiest to have just the family at a simple ceremony and go out for dinner. Then she'll spend her money on travel. But she and her boyfriend aren't in any hurry to make it happen any time soon. We'll figure out at the time what we can afford and what she wants.
My younger son is still in high school, so we have a little more time with him, too. Again, we'll see what is suitable at the time.
Fortunately, my kids don't feel that everything has to be exactly the same to be fair and don't seem to keep track of what we've spent on whom. (At least I hope that there isn't any hidden resentment...there is no indication of that.)
My older son had a wedding a year and a half ago. We paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave them a check to be used however they wanted to use it. His wife's parents paid for quite a bit of the wedding, but I don't know exactly how much. It was a very simple wedding and there weren't a lot of guests, but I know that things still added up. She doesn't like cut flowers, so we made all the flowers from paper. She and her mother did most of that work, though I helped a couple of times. They made their own invitations and decorations, too.
My daughter has said that she's not planning a wedding and would be happiest to have just the family at a simple ceremony and go out for dinner. Then she'll spend her money on travel. But she and her boyfriend aren't in any hurry to make it happen any time soon. We'll figure out at the time what we can afford and what she wants.
My younger son is still in high school, so we have a little more time with him, too. Again, we'll see what is suitable at the time.
Fortunately, my kids don't feel that everything has to be exactly the same to be fair and don't seem to keep track of what we've spent on whom. (At least I hope that there isn't any hidden resentment...there is no indication of that.)