Whaaaat?
My original thought was to give them the luggage. You put alot of thought into getting something they need and went to the trouble to go shopping to get it. However, after reading how this bride is acting, I think I'd take the luggage back, pocket the money, and skip the wedding. What kind of person tells a family member that only certain kids will invited to their wedding, but their kids are not among them, and then in the same breath right in front of that person, tells another family member that her 18 month old is?
Family! Why is it that there is that someone in every family, who makes you scratch your head and wonder what alien brought them to earth. We have my eldest D-I-L. I get along with her fine, except for when it comes to the way she treats my grand daugher (her step daughter). She is just vindictive and cruel to her and even says herself she can't seem to help it. It just comes out.
I had my first run in with her a couple of months before their wedding. I had only met her twice, so didn't really know her. (It was my son's second marriage, her first, and my son had a nine y/o daughter from his first marriage.) Both were well established in their jobs and making quite a bit more money than me. My son had already said they were paying for the entire wedding, as her dad was too cheap. But he called and said she wondered if I'd pay for the wedding rehearsal and band, which I agreed to. Then a couple months out, this girl I had only met twice and wasn't too impressed with anyway, due to the bad way she treated my grand daughter (her future stepdaughter) when I did see them together, called me out of the blue. She just casually mentioned that they were going on a Carribean cruise and it would cost this much. Knowing their financial situation and that she'd put my son up to asking me to pay for the reception and band, I asked if she was sure they could afford it. She calmly and nonchalantly said, "no", "of course the groom's family pays for the honeymoon. I need to pay for it today. When would be a good time to come by and pick it up?"
I let her know in no uncertain terms that was not happening and reminded her that both her and my son, as well as her parents were alot more well off than I was, her parents weren't paying a penny on the wedding, and that I was already paying for the rehearsal dinner and the band for the reception. I then hung up on her and called my son who apologized, said she had wanted a Carribean honeymoon and when informed they couldn't afford it and they would have to wait a few months to do so, tried to make him call me for the money. He refused, so she apparently got my number out of his phone, and called me herself to demand the money.
We arrived early to help get things ready for the outside wedding they were having and it was all I could do to keep my mouth shut, as she just kept snapping at my little grand daughter the whole time, insisting on using a flat iron on her hair, because her curly hair made her look too much like her mother and she didn't want any reminders of that B-tch at her wedding (my GD looks exactly like her mother), that she'd better not get her dress dirty or she'd have my son beat her, that she intentionally had not let her do anything in the wedding, because she only wanted people she liked in her wedding, etc.
It should have been the happiest day of her life and instead she used her wedding day to pick at my grand daughter (when my son was not around). Even her mother finally lit into her and told her to leave her alone and she couldn't believe she was acting that way, (as did her matron of honor, who told her she should be ashamed of herself). My son knew she was extremely jealous of my grand daughter and his exwife, but thought it would get better after they got married. It didn't! Seven years later they hate each other and we just try our best to keep my grand daughter away from her! My son has threatened more than once to leave her over it and she'll keep her caustic tongue to herself for awhile, but then out of the blue will say something bad about my ex D-I-L in front of my grand daughter just trying to set her off.