Gina-Gina-Bo-Bina
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- Joined
- Sep 12, 2008
DH has a sister, 37, who announced her engagement in late August. She and her husband-to-be are marrying in December.
First marriage for the sister. 2nd for the fiancé (he has two children, one in university and the other 14 and lives with him).
Both have established homes. She will be renting hers out and moving into his.
Both have good jobs (she will be leaving hers and seeking work in her new city, but will have her rental income and unemployment insurance in the interim).
Its a big wedding. 250 people or more.
A couple of weeks ago, DH and I purchased their wedding gift. Its a 4-piece matching set of luggage. We knew they had enough household stuff (since they have two complete households to merge) and thought they could use the luggage for their honeymoon (and in the years beyond). The last trip the sister took to visit family out west, she borrowed my luggage as hers had broken.
I was handed the wedding invitation at yesterdays bridal shower for the sister. Inside it had a card that read:
WE ARE SENDING OUT THIS INVITATION
AND HOPE YOU WILL JOIN OUR CELEBRATION.
IF TO SEND A GIFT IS YOUR INTENTION
IN MODESTY WE WOULD LIKE TO MENTION
WE ALREADY HAVE A KETTLE AND A TOASTER
CROCKERY, DINNER MATS AND COASTERS.
RATHER THAN SOMETHING WE HAVE ALREADY GOT
WE WOULD APPRECIATE MONEY FOR OUR SAVINGS POT.
BUT, MOST IMPORTANTLY, WE REQUEST
THAT YOU JOIN US AS OUR WEDDING GUEST.
Of course, I didn't get a gift receipt for the luggage . We thought it was a unique enough idea that she wouldn't get a duplicate.
So now, do I take it back and give them the cash instead....or do I give them the gift anyway and not worry about it. The crappy thing is that I got a great deal on the luggage (60% off) so the value of the gift is better than the cash equivalent. Its a quality set of luggage, so even with the discount it cost over $75, but still. Sigh.
DH is disgusted that they came right out and asked for money. Old poops that we are (married 20 years ago), it certainly wasn't the norm in 1993 . Maybe that's changed and we need to move with the times.
Anyhoo, just wondering if you guys would give them the gift or return it and give them the cash they want. I am pondering what to do and am interested in your perspectives.
(and yes.....lesson learned.....next time, I will definitely get the gift receipt!!!)
First marriage for the sister. 2nd for the fiancé (he has two children, one in university and the other 14 and lives with him).
Both have established homes. She will be renting hers out and moving into his.
Both have good jobs (she will be leaving hers and seeking work in her new city, but will have her rental income and unemployment insurance in the interim).
Its a big wedding. 250 people or more.
A couple of weeks ago, DH and I purchased their wedding gift. Its a 4-piece matching set of luggage. We knew they had enough household stuff (since they have two complete households to merge) and thought they could use the luggage for their honeymoon (and in the years beyond). The last trip the sister took to visit family out west, she borrowed my luggage as hers had broken.
I was handed the wedding invitation at yesterdays bridal shower for the sister. Inside it had a card that read:
WE ARE SENDING OUT THIS INVITATION
AND HOPE YOU WILL JOIN OUR CELEBRATION.
IF TO SEND A GIFT IS YOUR INTENTION
IN MODESTY WE WOULD LIKE TO MENTION
WE ALREADY HAVE A KETTLE AND A TOASTER
CROCKERY, DINNER MATS AND COASTERS.
RATHER THAN SOMETHING WE HAVE ALREADY GOT
WE WOULD APPRECIATE MONEY FOR OUR SAVINGS POT.
BUT, MOST IMPORTANTLY, WE REQUEST
THAT YOU JOIN US AS OUR WEDDING GUEST.
Of course, I didn't get a gift receipt for the luggage . We thought it was a unique enough idea that she wouldn't get a duplicate.
So now, do I take it back and give them the cash instead....or do I give them the gift anyway and not worry about it. The crappy thing is that I got a great deal on the luggage (60% off) so the value of the gift is better than the cash equivalent. Its a quality set of luggage, so even with the discount it cost over $75, but still. Sigh.
DH is disgusted that they came right out and asked for money. Old poops that we are (married 20 years ago), it certainly wasn't the norm in 1993 . Maybe that's changed and we need to move with the times.
Anyhoo, just wondering if you guys would give them the gift or return it and give them the cash they want. I am pondering what to do and am interested in your perspectives.
(and yes.....lesson learned.....next time, I will definitely get the gift receipt!!!)