When your house guests are rude, pushy, demanding and they're family

[dizneegirl]

Here ya go!

I love it! Aunt has no taste, either...

 

[FreeTime]

Here ya go!

Front of it looks like something was sprayed on it because when DH was a toddler, he tried to “help” MIL clean it by spraying Windex on it.

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I’m going with what’s-it is a sideboard. It is lovely.

 

[Pink Partridge]

• Complained that there wasn't any food in MIL's fridge for them to eat. Um...hello? Since when did this require us to provide you with groceries?
• Demanded my DH go to the grocery store, and spend $75 on groceries for them. How come they couldn't do this themselves? "You don't understand. We could get COVID and die." But you're ok with my DH getting COVID? When they went to the assisted living/hospice care facility, did they wear masks? No. Did they reimburse us for the groceries? No.

I would have shrugged and said "Gosh. I hope you don't starve." And I would have taken pleasure in saying that. No guilt whatsoever. What is wrong with me??

I am very quick to write people off. As in never talk to you again if you behave in this manner. It is a deficit of mine, I know. But I just can't have humans like this in my life.

 

[focusondisney]

Aunt & Uncle are not blood relations to MIL and had no claim to anything in MIL’s estate.

OMG they’re not even actual blood relatives?! Nope. I’d be done.

 

[VandVsmama]

OMG they’re not even actual blood relatives?! Nope. I’d be done.

Yep. Uncle is DH’s father’s brother. Aunt is in the picture by marriage to Uncle.

 

[weewuvvdisney]

When they call to say they are on their way, tell them, oh no! We are all sick. Think of something contagious that can last for a while and redirect them up north for the cooler temps. Good luck!

 

[jo-jo]

Just want to say loved “senior kitty retirement sanctuary “.

We have relatives who always runs into traffic. For forty years, always traffic. Always late for dinner. We don’t wait.

 

[barkley]

Here ya go!

Front of it looks like something was sprayed on it because when DH was a toddler, he tried to “help” MIL clean it by spraying Windex on it.

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I'll go with side-board as well and it's lovely. btw-to protect the sheen on the top and other areas don't spray furniture polish (like pledge) directly on it/spray on to the cloth and then apply. I worked in a furniture store and I learned the propellants they use in the canned stuff will eat away at the finish.


auntie and uncle??? well, I have a rule that I won't accept behaviour from anyone related to me that I would'nt accept from anyone else in the world. marriage or blood relatedness does not give someone a golden ticket to treat me badly. that said, with those family members who won't take 'no' for an answer-we are now in the age where COVID is a handy excuse for not having visitors but some people believe that they can never catch it again b/c they've had a shot or two so I still like my old stand-by of 'we've all come down with the nastiest strain of stomach flu, we've been running to the bathroom for days' we could never forgive ourselves if we exposed you to this'.

 

[Tigger2ntinkerbell]

First WOW.
I have,a sibling like that. My sibling would come home to visit at my parents' house, and my folks would jump through hoops. And when she finally leaves you think peace and quiet NOPE, for the next several months my Mother would complain how hard it was for her and how she had to clean the whole house every day and if the grass was cut my my sister allergies would acted up. And if dust from the dirt road got on her car, you never heard the end of it.
This went on for several years. My Mom called me the next time my sister was coming home, and I thought great.
So I called and told her that if you love the rest of the family go to a hotel during your stay because I'm the lucky one that gets to hear how hard you made Mom's life when you come home. She said Mom and Dad never said anything to her and she doesn't make them jump though hoops, I said yeah you do.
She was angry, call my parents. Then my Mom calls me, wants to know why I told my sister to stay at a hotel. I tried to explain but my Mom doesn't wanted to hear it puts my Dad on the phone(this is not going great or good at this point), I explain to my Dad what happens every single time when my sister visits this happens.
My Dad who hardly ever says much, finally told my Mother he had enough and he loves my sister but he not going go through what they been though and its stopping now, he called my sister to let her know it was better if she stayed hotel.
The problem was that my Mom believed that my sister would never come back for visit if she couldn't stay with them. In the end her last visit home was much better.

Peace rains when you have boundaries.

 

[focusondisney]

OMG they’re not even actual blood relatives?! Nope. I’d be done.

Oh ok, not blood but in laws, so still family. I thought maybe they were just close friends or something

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Wow, just wow... I think family stuff will be the death of us all