what to send..sympathy gift for men??

[princesscj]

My DH's BF from college who lives across the country father passed away. They cremated him and there is no wake/viewing/funeral/etc. So, really flowers are out.

He lives with his brother. So, what do you send a man for a "sympathy" gift? We want to send more than a card.

No "in leiu of flowers" stuff.

I was kinda thinking Cheryl & Co.? I really want to stay BUDGET here...anyone have a suggestion and or a code to help out???

Thanks so much!!! So confused!!!

 

[TaraPA]

Sorry I don't know what Cheryl & Co. is...but how about a muffin, fruit or bagel basket? I'm sure they can always use food & will appreciate it in this difficult time, when the last thing they want to think about is making meals.

 

[princesscj]

Sorry, it's a local thing I think....Cheryl and Co. is a cookie company! Thanks for reading though!

 

[annsteere]

I keep a list in my calendar and when Mother's Day or Father's Day rolls around I send a second sympathy note to friends who's parents died this year.

That isn't any help for you for a gift. But, you can bet that this will be a hard Father's Day for him and a note from your DH at that time might mean a lot.

 

[KigerKat]

Food is always a good thing to send when someone is grieving. Maybe send them a Honeybaked Ham?

 

[java]

I'm voting on the food too.

Wolferman's english muffins are always a hit(who knew? I got a deal on the first batch I ever sent and have them requested now)

http://www.wolfermans.com/gifts/sto...rch_nontm&cm_mmc=Search: W Keywords-_-Google-

Or this is my other favorite food ordering site
http://www.stonewallkitchen.com/navgiftdepartment.aspx?L0=Gifts

Cookies are a bit too festive for a sympathy gift I think. jmho

 

[debsays]

Donations to a certain organization is always a good choice. Our favorite is St.Jude's Children's Hospital.

 

[Ellisa]

a blanket?

 

[SeansMom]

When my aunt passed my Dad was unable to attend her funeral (too far away, health issues, etc.) but I wanted to do something for him. Like you, I struggled with what to do for a guy. In the end, I looked up their local florists online, and called one who gladly, and rather inexpensively, made up a fruit, cheese, and chocolate basket which they then delivered. So, you could find someone local to them and see what they could do with the amount you have to spend. Hope that helps.

 

[luvtogo12]

I agree, any type of food is a great idea. Had it not been for the fruit and cheese basket my parents received when my brother passed, I don't think we would have had anything to eat the day of the viewings.

I would love to get something from Wolfermans as a PP mentioned. They have some nice gifts at 50% off.

Also, when my brother passed away, a friend of mine brought me over a box of chocolates to "sweeten the sorrow". I loved this idea and the thought behind it.

 

[TaraPA]

Wait - what was the site that had everything 75% off - Pepperidge Farms? Heavenly Ham??? It was all over the Budget Board a few weeks ago - order from there & have it direct shipped as a gift. They had everything from cheese & sausage baskets to whole hams!

 

[Newfie2000]

Wait - what was the site that had everything 75% off - Pepperidge Farms? Heavenly Ham??? It was all over the Budget Board a few weeks ago - order from there & have it direct shipped as a gift. They had everything from cheese & sausage baskets to whole hams!

I believe you are talking about Hickory Farms?

 

[junebugTN]

I often send a gift basket from Harry & David. They cover all price ranges, and everyone appreciates having something to much on. You can usually find a coupon code if you google 'em too.

I know when my dad passed, any gesture was appreciated. The gifts that really stood out were the heartfelt notes and cards. He'll appreciate whatever you come up with, just to know you're thinking of him.

June

 

[d1gitman]

Edible Arrangements gets my vote. I have never seen, heard nor experienced dissapointment with one.

 

[TaraPA]

I believe you are talking about Hickory Farms?

YES!!!!!!!

 

[NateNLogansDad]

I was in a local fast food place and a guy was in there buying gift cards for somone who had just lost a family member. He asked if they can use the gift cards for delivery and was told yes. He told me he figured everybody was sending things here and there, and who wants to cook after loosing a family member, so this was the best he could come up with, along with a card, and I thought it was very nice and heart felt.

 

[princesscj]

Thanks eveyone...great ideas!

 

[heartbeeps]

Have a tree planted in their memory. National Forests is one place that does this; you could pick a nearby forest that your friend could visit. (FYI - for Jewish, you can plant a tree in Israel.)

Reseach and find a deli local to your friend's home and ask if they could send a plate of food over; we've done that before and it's worked out real well. (I ended up calling a Pizza/Italian restaurant for a recent funeral and was able to send a heaping plate of sandwiches - with special requirements for the grieving mother who suffers from a disease that requires no wheat products.)

 

[Va-bear]

I'd say go w/ the cookies. I sent them to my boss when her dad died and she told several people, even years later, how great it was to have something quick and easy and sweet to eat when she felt down.

I sent "Mrs Fields" from here (1o% off today....)

http://www.proflowers.com/cookies-b...tB&clickid=59JLB7sBj1c-FghvyzxpR77V43RujLz.BA

Food of an type is good.

 

[Piecey]

Another vote for food.

When DH's dad died (he lived an hour away) we were doing the hour there/back everyday.. by the time we got home, I did NOT want to cook. A lot of people sent us giftcards to places like subway/burger king/sonic/etc.

It made it so much better because I definitely didn't feel like cleaning up a mess from cooking.