Got called an ******* for getting off bus before the ramp was down for scooters

[Genie+]

i would call out their behavior and explain to them how inappropriate their remarks was and tell their dad and mother who were waiting in an EVC how disrespectful their adult child was.

Please explain why calling out bad behavior toward someone wouldn’t end well for either of us? If you don’t address bad behavior on the spot they will continue to do it. What do you think will happen?

The real winners at WDW are the people who do not escalate, even when given a reason.

You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. Responding to inexcusable behavior with more negative behavior doesn’t seem the best way forward.

The best thing to prove at WDW is that you can be gracious to a fellow human, especially when they have lost their self control*. Show them the way. With a smile and compassion that maybe this is not their best moment. Because in the big picture what is WDW? A place we bring our children to dream big and be inspired by humanity. Where adults can tap back in to the wonder of their own inner child.

*obviously not if they are being dangerous, which did not seem to be the case here

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Because you don’t know how that person will react. Maybe they would further insult you. Maybe they’d get physical with you. Maybe they’d say something that would trigger you to further react. Who knows? Things can happen quickly and someone might say or do something they’d regret in the heat of the moment.

You just never know. Lots of loose cannons out there.

I’m 6’2 220 pounds and bench 300 pounds, thank you for your concern but I think I can manage myself. Plus they were just coming back from the parks so it’s not like they had any weapons on them. They already escalated things. You can live your life being everyone’s doormat but I won’t.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

The real winners at WDW are the people who do not escalate, even when given a reason.

You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. Responding to inexcusable behavior with more negative behavior doesn’t seem the best way forward.

The best thing to prove at WDW is that you can be gracious to a fellow human, especially when they have lost their self control*. Show them the way. With a smile and compassion that maybe this is not their best moment. Because in the big picture what is WDW? A place we bring our children to dream big and be inspired by humanity. Where adults can tap back in to the wonder of their own inner child.

*obviously not if they are being dangerous, which did not seem to be the case here

Telling someone their behavior is unacceptable is not “negative behavior” if it was then all parenting is negative behavior. If a child bits anther kid you need to explain why that is bad behavior. This person was acting like a child therefore same strategies need to be used.

I’m sorry but I hear someone call my wife negative names, and I hear them, I will not just look at them and smile, that’s absurd.

 

[SirDuff]

Telling someone their behavior is unacceptable is not “negative behavior” if it was then all parenting is negative behavior. If a child bits anther kid you need to explain why that is bad behavior. This person was acting like a child therefore same strategies need to be used.

I’m sorry but I hear someone call my wife negative names, and I hear them, I will not just look at them and smile, that’s absurd.

YOUR child - fine

Otherwise, nope and you're just trying to use your size to intimidate others. Had I seen a scene you described above (where you told off others and waited to further tell off their parents), you're the one I'd thing was behaving badly and whose upbringing, manners, and morality, I'd be questioning.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

YOUR child - fine

Otherwise, nope and you're just trying to use your size to intimidate others. Had I seen a scene you described above (where you told off others and waited to further tell off their parents), you're the one I'd thing was behaving badly and whose upbringing, manners, and morality, I'd be questioning.

Huh? How am I using size to intimidate others when this person called in the hypothetical situation my wife an “*******” clearly my size didn’t prevent that in this hypothetical situation.

if you judge the person politely telling that person how inappropriate that comment was worse then the person who needlessly made the comment then I question your judgement. The scene I described had no shouting or anything stop making assumptions. Based on what you are saying I honestly wouldn’t care what you think in that situation because apparently someone can say whatever they want to you or your family and you won’t say anything back.

 

[Disneylover99]

I’m 6’2 220 pounds and bench 300 pounds, thank you for your concern but I think I can manage myself. Plus they were just coming back from the parks so it’s not like they had any weapons on them. They already escalated things. You can live your life being everyone’s doormat but I won’t.

Taking the high road (especially in a non confrontational incident such as this) is not being a doormat. Just know, it doesn’t take a heck of a lot to get yourself trespassed from Disney. But you do you.

 

[Isthisnormalatdisney]

Taking the high road (especially in a non confrontational incident such as this) is not being a doormat. Just know, it doesn’t take a heck of a lot to get yourself trespassed from Disney. But you do you.

He called me an ******* infront of my wife……. If he called my wife an ******* infront of me that would be an issue too……

Apparently calling someone an ******* for no reason isn’t a reason to trespass me, so why would my non-vulgar response get me trespassed…. It’s victim blaming at its finest.

Anyways these comments have been eye-opening and showed me that I haven’t actually been missing much on these forums, I don’t have the time or power to argue with someone who has averaged about ten posts a day on a Disney forum for the last 12 years. I think you have a warped view of reality at Disney because you spend so much of your day focusing on Disney, most people don’t have their daily life revolve so much around Disney.

 

[SirDuff]

Bye bye!

 

[sam_gordon]

Anyways these comments have been eye-opening and showed me that I haven’t actually been missing much on these forums, I don’t have the time or power to argue with someone who has averaged about ten posts a day on a Disney forum for the last 12 years. I think you have a warped view of reality at Disney because you spend so much of your day focusing on Disney, most people don’t have their daily life revolve so much around Disney.

With all due respect, it's been made known for a while that "there's no pixie dust on the Transportation board".

The world, the country, and by extension Disney, is a different place. Not as many people "filter" themselves and have no issues being rude. And yes, you are correct that the more they don't get "called on it", that will just encourage them for the next time. The REALITY though is you don't know what a person will do if challenged.

Yes, it would be nice if everyone followed Disney (any locations) behavior guideline. However, going to security over someone calling you an ******* is an extreme step. Let's say, just for the sake of argument, security actually did go through the cameras, figured out who this person was, tracked them down, and had a talk with them. "Did you call someone an '*******' when getting off the bus this morning?" "Who, me? Couldn't be." Now what? "Oh, sorry for interrupting your day."?

THATs what people are responding to. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's not true.

And criticizing someone's post count is also rude. Should you be turned in to Dis "security"?

 

[traveler9]

Maybe they were still unhappy from when they found out they couldn’t get a free front of the line pass for having a scooter.

 

[titojackson84]

This is why when I commented, I said based on the information provided. I strongly feel there is another side to this story that was left out.

 

[Minnie1222]

Maybe they were still unhappy from when they found out they couldn’t get a free front of the line pass for having a scooter.

I don't think the OP had a scooter. From what I read, he was just an ambulatory guest who got off the bus as soon as the door was opened. The other passenger probably thought that the scooters get to leave first and OP was being unkind.

 

[traveler9]

I don't think the OP had a scooter. From what I read, he was just an ambulatory guest who got off the bus as soon as the door was opened. The other passenger probably thought that the scooters get to leave first and OP was being unkind.

I wasn’t referring to the OP. I was referring to the person who called them a name.

 

[Mouse Tracker]

one of the members in the party of 14

After I left he apparently called me an *******

Late to the party........As long as a Disney CM didn't call you the name, I think your over reacting to an everyday type of behavior that now exists everywhere. Security isn't responsible for enforcing manners. You should have anticipated that behavior from someone in that party based on your description of them. Life's short, ignore the "passive-aggressive" types.