PSA - please give up your seat if someone needs it more

[Chuck S]

If the probability of each falling is the same, then I agree with you. But the probability of a toddler falling is generally a lot higher than the mom. Hence - up to her to decide what works best for her family.

Actually, the probablility of an adult with an altered center of gravity is higher, and also does the most damage.

 

[theMoreDisneytheBetter]

Actually, the probablility of an adult witn an altered center of gravity is higher, and also does the most damage.

So is your point that because the mom made a different decision I shouldn’t have given up my seat in the first place? How is that not infantilizing the woman by presuming that we know what is best for her? Should i have demanded it back?

I took 16 6th grade Scouts on the NYC subway back in September and at least 5 of them went flying despite repeated warnings to hang on. As a former New Yorker, even on my worst days I’m not that bad.

 

[Chuck S]

So is your point that because the mom made a different decision I shouldn’t have given up my seat in the first place? How is that not infantilizing the woman by presuming that we know what is best for her? Should i have demanded it back?

I took 16 6th grade Scouts on the NYC subway back in September and at least 5 of them went flying despite repeated warnings to hang on. As a former New Yorker, even on my worst days I’m not that bad.

No, but if you gave up your seat for her (which was the polite thing to do) you could have nicely suggested it could be much safer for the baby in the event of a fast stop or quick turn for her to sit instead of her toddler on a crowded bus.

 

[The Mayor]

Ugh. How sad that you feel young healthy women want a seat from an elderly man. It's like the men who feel a woman can't open a door by herself, we are not so weak and needy.

I look at it as being a gentleman! Where you look at it as male chauvinism, I see it as being polite.

 

[elvispursley]

Having been on the new style of buses that are in service at WDW, there are not a lot of poles for toddlers to hang onto as in the older buses. I, too, would’ve seated my toddler as I could reach the upper grab bar/straps. The woman could’ve also sat and had the toddler stand between her legs.

 

[robinb]

LOL. The “invisible disability” argument was the first one on the thread. It happens every time.

Frankly, I think that young people are no longer trained to give up their bus seats to anyone. It’s simply not on their radar anymore. I am a senior auditor at a major university and I attend a university class twice per week. I take the bus to the university and back home. I am in my early 60’s and overweight, so no spring chicken and no fit elder. The bus home is usually packed with students and I have to board a standing room only bus. In the 30 or so rides back home not a single 17-22 year old offered me a seat. Not one. On one ride a seat opened up next to me and a young man blocked me and plopped down into it.

FTR, I don’t expect them to offer a seat and if they did I would probably decline. I’ve been “bus surfing” for probably as long as their parents have been alive and I can hang on just fine. Still, it’s an interesting observation that no one in 30 trips on a full bus over has ever offered a “granny” aged woman a seat. It’s just not baked in anymore to offer seats on busses.