my son has had the same tic since before he could sit up. i actually have pictures of him doing it. he has "expanded" the tic, but it's definitely the same one. when he is excited/happy (not when nervous or anxious or bored--only excited), he twists his wrists in circles and, when he was a baby, his ankles. as a baby, the sears photographer's flash excited him, and you can see in the portrait that he is twisting his ankles and his arms are stiff and wrists are twisting.
at about age 3, he added bowing his head and bowing his body at the waist and put this arms straight back, still stiff and wrists twisting (arms do not flap--they are stiff--only wrists circle).
at about age 7 (not sure on that age though), he added a skip and hop. so now, at age 9 1/2, when he excited (watching a good ballgame, playing soccer, playing on the playground, playing a video game, about to open a present), he bends at the waist, tucks his chin in, extends his arms and twists his wrists, all while taking a few steps forward in a skip and hop fashion. he can then return to his activity for a few seconds and then repeat the tic again, several times. when push comes to shove (the opponent is nearing him with the soccer ball), he seems to be able to focus and play soccer and not "tic."
although this is not terminal cancer, it deeply pains me to see. first, i fear that eventually he'll be made fun of. it's quite obvious, and it's every time he is excited in any situation.
second, because he is looking down and "running away," he is missing out on life a bit--he misses big plays that he is watching for on tv because he gets so excited that he "tics." after the "tic," he's like, "what happened? did we score?" it affects his play too in sports. he looks down and "tics" and before he knows it, the opponent is advancing on him with the ball, and he's missed some crucial reaction time. it's not like i want him to be a pro soccer player, but again, it's painful to watch.
about my son--smart, social, loves sports, very popular, really nothing overly unusual about him, except this. i sometimes see glimpses of anxiety in him, but we work so hard to counteract that no one else would ever see those little glimpses. i believe anxiety to be so terrible that i would rather him burn our house down than lecture him on the dangers of matches. so, i sometimes think that he would have an anxiety disorder if he were being raised by someone not as in-tune with potential "anxiety disorder" triggers as i am (can you tell that me and my dad have anxiety disorders? i am recovered, i like to say!). he has no other tics and no verbal tics.
so anyway, that's my story. i guess my questions would be:
1. is it significant in any way that he's been doing the same one since age 0? does that mean something (like it's XYZ and i should be doing ABC).
2. the most common thought is to just ignore because nothing can be done which makes sense, but it is the opposite of so much of what is good for kids with problems: early intervention. for example, if a child is shy, ocd, aggressive, depressed, you name it, you don't just ignore it and hope they outgrow it. you try to help from an early age. i realize that is not the case here. i'm just saying that it's hard to change the mindset to IGNORE when you as a caring parent are programmed to have a watchful eye from early on and INTERVENE. in the back of my head sometimes, i am thinking: we should get a handle on this NOW when he is 9. it's be easier to fix at 9 then at 19. is that forsure wrong?
3. why go to a neurologist? i took him at age 3, and the dr (who was very rude btw) said it was a tic and nothing could be done unless it was hugely problematic which it is not. his eeg was normal. again, this goes back to point 2. it's hard for me NOT to take him when there is so obviously something wrong. but i think it will just hurt his self esteem for some dr. to say that there is nothing we can do with your freaky problem. my son doesn't really think it's that freaky, so taking him to the dr. seems like a bad plan.
oh mylanta. this is so long. sorry. thanks for listening. i've never really talked to anyone about this since our neurologist visit when he was 3 just dismissed us. thanks for any help/advice.