I'm surprising my long-distance boyfriend with a visit....any suggestions?

[kaabost]

I moved 1/2 way across the country to start graduate school last fall. Since then, my boyfriend and I have only seen each other a couple of times (Christmas and Spring Break). He is moving out here next month but the long distance this past year has been so tough. We have both missed each other alot. Anyway, I was planning to visit for just a couple of days after my last exam which is scheduled for next Friday before returning to do some research. I found out the other day, however, that I am going to have an opportunity to take my Friday exam on Tuesday. That means that I will be able to visit him earlier and longer. I am not telling him about this as I want to surprise him. How should I do it? Shoud I just walk into his workplace? Hang out at the house until he gets home and hide my car? Any suggestions?

 

[WeirdEyes]

I would show up at his workplace if he is allowed visitors. That would be an awesome surprise. Have fun!

 

[wendyl]

OK--I know this is NO FUN--but I wouldn't surprise him! What if his place was messy/trashed and it would stress him out--or what if he made definite plans that he would then have to go about cancelling, or if that day at work was particularly busy. You don't want your first day together to have any stress at all--being apart is stressful enough.

Maybe surprise him with a phone call the night before--it will STILL be a surprise--and he will be able to look forward to--and get ready for your visit.

 

[CEDmom]

I can imagine how the seperation must be really hard on both of you. If you really have your heart set on surprising him I'd try to find out how his work time will be so you won't be showing up when he's running off to a meeting or trying to meet a deadline.

Since he will be moving out where you are next month another idea might be to save the money you'd spend traveling and book a night in a really nice hotel with room service.

 

[mommytotwo]

What type of place does your boyfriend work at? I would wait for him outside of his workplace when he is done with work, so he is able to still concentrate on what he is doing.
Maybe you could make reservations at a restaurant a couple hours after he is done working, so it allows him to get cleaned up.
Enjoy your time with him.

 

[DukeStreetKing]

Originally posted by wendyl
OK--I know this is NO FUN--but I wouldn't surprise him! What if his place was messy/trashed and it would stress him out--or what if he made definite plans that he would then have to go about cancelling, or if that day at work was particularly busy. You don't want your first day together to have any stress at all--being apart is stressful enough.

Maybe surprise him with a phone call the night before--it will STILL be a surprise--and he will be able to look forward to--and get ready for your visit.

I agree. While it is very romantic and cute to want to fly out and surprise him, sometimes it's just not practical. Besides, if you call him first, that gives him a chance to go out and buy you a welcoming gift or make reservations for dinner or something like that.

 

[MosMom]

I agree. While it is very romantic and cute to want to fly out and surprise him, sometimes it's just not practical. Besides, if you call him first, that gives him a chance to go out and buy you a welcoming gift or make reservations for dinner or something like that.

OR it gives him a chance to hide his 2nd girlfriend!

Just kidding Just kidding!

I also wouldn't suprise him though, simply for the reasons stated before. I think it will still be surprise enough just to know you are coming!! Give him a few days notice though just so he can make the time for you to come.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I surprised my long distance BF once (now DH)... he was a bank teller, and I just drove into one of his lanes =) I called when I knew he would be at lunch and asked one of his coworkers what lane he was watching, and drove into it and pushed the button. They dont pay much attention to the people driving in and out, so he didnt realize it until he answered the call and I asked him if he wanted a date that night =)

He was THRILLED and thought it was very romantic =) He passed me the keys through the shoot so I could head to his house if I wanted, and i just shopped at the mall there until he got off...

I knew he would love it, and welcome the surprise. We had been together for a really long time... I knew him well. I think its a grand idea, esp if you know your BF will be thrilled as well =)

 

[airhead]

....Call first!

 

[powellrj]

my DH and I also had a long distance relationship before we got married and my suggestion would be DON"T SURPISE him. Because we saw each other very seldom (this was over 26 years ago before cell phones and computers) we both kept very busy with our own lives and usually kept our time filled with work and family commitments. While it sounds nice and romantic, it could lead to very hurt feelings if he has things to do that can't be changed.

 

[bizybea]

Is there some way that you can let maybe his brother or a close friend in on your plan and ask him to help you? He can make "plans" to go out with your boyfriend, so he won't suspect anything, then you can show up and surprise him! Then the friend can remember something else he has to do so that you two can be together?

 

[disneychrista]

Originally posted by wendyl
OK--I know this is NO FUN--but I wouldn't surprise him!

This is my thought too. My first reaction to the Q is DON'T!

 

[Robinrs]

I've done this before and I agree... call first....

Let's put it this way, I was the one who was surprised!

 

[faithinkarma]

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[believe]

If you have a serious relationship I say do it. A serious relationship should have nothing to hide.

 

[kaabost]

I thank you guys for your suggestions. I will consider your wisdom. My boyfriend is a restaurant manager (I actually know him because I worked at the restaurant before starting graduate school.......but don't worry, I quit long before before we actually started dating ). Anyway, I still know several of the people who work there and he has already mentioned his work schedule. I figured that I would come in the restaurant that night and sit at the bar until he gets off work (which will be around 1 am). I think that he would love it.....but I will think about it some more. Any more thoughts?

 

[palmtreegirl]

If you guys are serious and you think he'll love it then go for it.

Have fun and update us when you get back!

 

[CourtasanSatine]

DBF has suprised me before and I loved it(granted he lives a hour and a half away and we had talked only the night beofre so he knew I was home)

 

[Serena]

I think it's not a good idea, but that's my experience, hopefully yours will be better.