What is the worst wedding , stag or hen do you have been to?

[meaty]

Any terrible stories of it going badly wrong.

 

[donac]

I wouldn't say it went badly but it was just different.

Dh and traveled with our younger son and his fiance from New Jersey to a wedding in Wichita Kansas. This was wedding #2 out of 4 that we have had in the last year. We decided before the first one what we would give as a gift to the nieces and nephew that were going to get married.

When we got to the ceremony/reception the wedding was very cute. They had the grandmothers as flower girls. I thought it was a little tacky that the mother of the bride wore the same color as the wedding party. I was impressed that my dh felt the same thing.

The cocktail hour was in a tight room with only drinks and no food. When we went into the buffet line to get food all they had was hamburgers, potato salad, beans and chips. What bothered my dh was that they didn't even put the chips into bowls. They had them in the bags. There was no official wedding cake. They had a one layer ice cream cake that was only for the wedding party. Everyone else helped them to an assortment of sheet cakes.

I was a little upset of the time and the expense of travel and what we gave them as a wedding present that I felt a little cheated. Dh chalks it up to being in a different part of the country and we deal with it.

BY the way, you could tell the guys who came from the east coast. They were wearing jackets and ties. I don't know how it is in other parts of the country but we were surprised at how informal people came. It was not an outdoor ceremony.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I was part of a bachelorette party that went completely bad....well for the bride because everyone else had fun.

The bride is/was very controlling. She has a vision on how things should work out and when they don't she can't adapt and overcome and just go with the flow!

The bridal party was 10 girls, 6 of which are the groom's family (I'm the girlfriend of his cousin so #7). Already a huge red flag IMO. That many girls together and things go bad. Well on top of that she invited about 15 more people to the bachelorette weekend. In total there were 15 of us going to AC for the weekend. The MOH dragged her feet and we couldn't get a house together because you need to book a shore house in the summer at least 6 months ahead of time. So we stay at a hotel. The MOH booked for her, two bridesmaids, the bride and some of their friends that the rest of the bridal party didn't know. The rest of us (9 girls who are all friends and/or family) booked through a timeshare renter. We didn't realize until we checked in that we had booked a penthouse on the 32nd floor through this renter. The MOH only booked her a regular 2 bedroom suite and we both paid about the same.

Well with a group of 15 drunk girls things get chaotic. 15 girls are not going to stay in a pack at all time especially in two rooms. The 9 girls in my room did wonderfully IMO. We had a blast!!!!! We all went out Friday night and things got a little tense but everyone moved past it and started Saturday fresh. Saturday morning the bride and her room peeps went to the beach to swim. The rest of us did breakfast. By Saturday afternoon she was very standoffish, not engaging, not interacting with us (the other 9 girls not in her room), not making eye contact, refused to have a drink, etc. By Saturday night she had completely stopped talking to us and Saturday was the BIG NIGHT of going out and partying after dinner. The night she had been waiting for. Well during dinner she did not say two words to us. Her MOH came over and said we were meeting at the club at X time. The bride got up, hailed a cab with her crew and left. Well after dinner we ditched her. We went somewhere else. When we left Sunday we didn't speak to her and didn't speak to her for about two weeks.

Finally a "sit down" was called and once I heard WHY she stopped talking to us and why she was upset it BLEW MY MIND. Never have I ever encountered anything so petty in my adult life. She almost ripped a family apart over this. The groom got into shouting matches with his sister and cousins until he heard the WHOLE story from both sides. He only had his brides side. We all stayed in her wedding (two weeks out and that many girls dropping out would have been a disaster), I spoke to her on her wedding day which was 6 weeks ago and I've spoken to her twice since then. The rest are cordial to her since she is now family. We used to be so close and talk daily. We had group texts, got together at least once a week and now no one wants to be around her. I don't think relationships will ever be the same after that.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

After that whole debacle I doubt I will ever be in a bridal party again. I'm too old for this nonsense.

 

[Kitty 34]

Any terrible stories of it going badly wrong.

Tell me yours and I will tell you mine!!!

 

[Shellsbutt]

I wouldn't say it went badly but it was just different.

Dh and traveled with our younger son and his fiance from New Jersey to a wedding in Wichita Kansas. This was wedding #2 out of 4 that we have had in the last year. We decided before the first one what we would give as a gift to the nieces and nephew that were going to get married.

When we got to the ceremony/reception the wedding was very cute. They had the grandmothers as flower girls. I thought it was a little tacky that the mother of the bride wore the same color as the wedding party. I was impressed that my dh felt the same thing.

The cocktail hour was in a tight room with only drinks and no food. When we went into the buffet line to get food all they had was hamburgers, potato salad, beans and chips. What bothered my dh was that they didn't even put the chips into bowls. They had them in the bags. There was no official wedding cake. They had a one layer ice cream cake that was only for the wedding party. Everyone else helped them to an assortment of sheet cakes.

I was a little upset of the time and the expense of travel and what we gave them as a wedding present that I felt a little cheated. Dh chalks it up to being in a different part of the country and we deal with it.

BY the way, you could tell the guys who came from the east coast. They were wearing jackets and ties. I don't know how it is in other parts of the country but we were surprised at how informal people came. It was not an outdoor ceremony.

When my nephew got married last summer, my sister and the mother of the bride wore the same color as the bridal party. I think it was coral. It seems to be a "thing" nowadays. I don't consider it tacky. To me, it would be tacky if the mother of the bride or groom wore white. Was there a dress code in the invitation? Since this was held indoors, you would think it would be more formal. Judging by the food though, it was definitely casual! Guys from the east coast aren't the only ones who dress up for weddings either, don't understand that .

 

[Earstou]

Dh and traveled with our younger son and his fiance from New Jersey to a wedding in Wichita Kansas.
When we got to the ceremony/reception the wedding was very cute. They had the grandmothers as flower girls. I thought it was a little tacky that the mother of the bride wore the same color as the wedding party.

I think I need to tell you that weddings are much more relaxed here in the midwest. Usually it's a case of friends and family joining the bride and groom in a celebration of their marriage. The couple decides how THEY choose to tie the knot, and the rest of us gladly join them to celebrate.
I don't see anything tacky with the MOB wearing the same colors, and my guess with the jackets is that maybe the locals knew it was a casual wedding, because I've seen plenty of jackets at weddings here.
Why on earth should the cost of the wedding decide how much your gift to them should be? I use my affection for the couple as a gauge for how much to spend. I've lived in a few large midwestern cities and we don't do the "cover your plate" here, so I don't understand it. Is this a "cover your plate" kind of thing, and you are upset because the "plate" wasn't expensive?

My disaster wedding story was a 19 yr old coworker marrying a 40 yr old who still lived with his elderly mother, who didn't approve. The wedding was in a local park, the MOG showed up dressed head to toe in black, with a veil no less, and one of the bridesmaids didn't show at all! After waiting quite awhile for the missing bridesmaid (no cell phones back then), I was asked to stand in for her. The MOG sobbed during the entire ceremony!

 

[Pink Partridge]

Finally a "sit down" was called and once I heard WHY she stopped talking to us and why she was upset it BLEW MY MIND. Never have I ever encountered anything so petty in my adult life. She almost ripped a family apart over this..

So I have to ask, what was the reason?

She seems very immature.

 

[RedAngie]

Finally a "sit down" was called and once I heard WHY she stopped talking to us and why she was upset it BLEW MY MIND. Never have I ever encountered anything so petty in my adult life. She almost ripped a family apart over this. The groom got into shouting matches with his sister and cousins until he heard the WHOLE story from both sides. He only had his brides side. We all stayed in her wedding (two weeks out and that many girls dropping out would have been a disaster), I spoke to her on her wedding day which was 6 weeks ago and I've spoken to her twice since then. The rest are cordial to her since she is now family. We used to be so close and talk daily. We had group texts, got together at least once a week and now no one wants to be around her. I don't think relationships will ever be the same after that.

Don't leave us in suspense. Why did she stop taking to you and why was she upset? Do tell.

(Unless you already mentioned it and maybe I missed it.)

 

[Dinohood]

my cousin's this past summer it was different she had it outside in TN she lives there. The problem was the day of the wedding it was 105 degrees I was in a 100% polyester dress which I did not know in till I had to wash it. They should put what type it is on the price tag like caution don't wear to summer wedding, her and the groom had small brunch stuff for the wedding lunch so like small sandwiches ect. The only salad they had was fruit salad and no cake for them it was a small one like only enough with a wedding topper for the rest of the guest cookies, cupcakes. It was so hot that not a lot of people stayed after the wedding lunch which was in a barn with no ac, on the table were cream mints my other cousin thought it was butter so he put his had in the bowl and it just got covered in melted mint goo.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

So I have to ask, what was the reason?

She seems very immature.

Don't leave us in suspense. Why did she stop taking to you and why was she upset? Do tell.

(Unless you already mentioned it and maybe I missed it.)

Oh it was a long list of stuff.

Friday night we started with a scavenger hunt on the boardwalk. We split into two teams. She was on my team. We had a blast and the two teams met up at a beach bar. We were there for 10 minutes and she wanted to dance. A few girls started dancing and some of us sat to rest our feet after the almost two hour scavenger hunt. After 5 minutes she abruptly said lets go. come to find out she was mad that we didn't want to dance.

After we left there two guys starting walking with us and chatting. They seemed creepy so the bride told them to leave. Someone asked who let them walk with us and someone said the bride. She flipped out cursing and saying it was someone else. The two girls she yelled at were upset but let it go.

After that we hit a bar and she wanted to leave but the rest wanted to stay. She said fine and told us to stop in her room on our way back. She left with her MOH.

Well we did knock on her door but she didn't hear us because they were on the balcony. So she was upset that none of us tried to call her. Ummm sorry but we were all drunk. It didn't cross our minds to call.

The next morning she sent a text that she was going to the beach and she was upset none of us responded. But we all told her the night before we didn't want to go to the beach.

As a last minute decision while she was at the beach we (9 girls in our room) went to breakfast. She's upset that none of us invited her to eat and that she had to find out on IG. Honest mistake. We should've texted her but we thought she was at the beach.

After that we had a cruise around the bay. She's upset that none of us went down to her room to have a drink with her before the cruise. Mind you we were on floor 32 and her on 9. The hotel had two very slow elevators. It took us 15 minutes to get on the elevator at times. And there were 9 girls getting ready in a room with two bathrooms. Time was of the essence.

She was upset that when we met in the lobby for the cruise not everyone said hi to her.

We drove to the cruise in two cars. Her with her MOH and crew and the rest of us in a taxi. She was upset that she "had to look for us" when she got there. We got there 2 minutes before her and walked 25 feet to an outside beach bar and started drinking. When we saw her we yelled and waved our arms and she came right over. When I asked her if she thought it would be better for us to stand in the sun she told me "the beach bar was in the sun too." No it had an awning and who cares anyway!!!

On the cruise she ran from us and wouldn't sit with us. When asked why she said she was sea sick. So we asked her why didn't she tell us and she said because none of us asked.

After the cruise we had to go back and get dressed for dinner. She's upset that no one answered her texts about going to room before dinner to have a drink. No one was on their phones. Everyone was busy getting ready. Hair, makeup, showers. She came to our room and claims none of us talked to her. We were still drunk from the cruise and most don't even remember her being there but the pics prove she was. Also again, 9 girls, 2 bathrooms getting ready for a big night out. It was chaos.

She's mad that her future SIL made her take a shot.

She's mad that no one seemed like they wanted to move so she could be in the center of a group photo.

She's mad because she thought we were going to take a group picture without her.

She's mad because we didn't put her in the limo first (we took a limo to dinner). Some of us got in before her.

At dinner she was upset because we were taking selfies and pictures without her. We were at 3 separate tables.

That's when we ditched her. After dinner. At this point we did not what was wrong but she had completely stopped talking to us. She wouldn't even make eye contact. But we were over her. That whole day she was standoffish.

We found this all out weeks later at the sit down. I told her she was petty at that time. Her DH looked stunned at times but stayed calm and never sided with us which I understand. He has to marry her. lol But you could tell he could see how stupid this all was.

 

[Nettester]

Wow, sounds like the bride had a really big group and expected a group dynamic suited to a very small group. It's a shame she didn't lighten up and enjoy herself, ugh!

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Wow, sounds like the bride had a really big group and expected a group dynamic suited to a very small group. It's a shame she didn't lighten up and enjoy herself, ugh!

Exactly what we've all said. She's also very controlling so when things didn't go how she envisioned it she couldn't let it go. Plus drunk people annoy me when I'm sober. She was sober the entire time, which IMO, was just so she could feel superior Bc she mentioned several times how she was sober and knows EVERYTHING that happened. I'm sure us being drunk bothered her but we were in AC. It was a party weekend. Not a spa weekend.

She wanted to be the center of attention and be all together all the time. That wasn't going to happen with that size group and in two different locations.

 

[rastahomie]

I got invited to a wedding in SomeTownIn, Kansas, three hours away from where I was living at the time. The guy and I had been BFFS for his two semesters before he dropped out of college, so I really wanted to go. So I took off work. I booked a hotel room. I drove from It-Doesn't-Matter, Missouri, to SomeTownIn, Kansas. In July. In a vehicle with no air conditioning.

The wedding was nice - the groom's brother had some nice words. But the reception was immediately afterwords, and it was naught but coffee and mints. In the church basement. The bride & groom said a few words then took off because they had to catch a flight, leaving me 200 miles from home in a room full of people I've never met. I said "screw it" and went home. First and last time I ever set foot in SomeTownIn, Kansas.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I had to read all the way to the bottom before I figured out where "AC" is LOL


Bachelor party in what looked like a barn, but was actually a huge man cave. I'm pretty backwoods, or so I thought. Some of these guys REALLY needed to get out more & it was obvious they also needed adult supervision. Things really spiraled down the drain when the stripper showed up - no escort & she immediately got drunk. I hate to picture what went on after we left early.

On the plus side, the food kicked tail! Fantastic chili, homemade wine, and so many varieties of Sommer Sausage I couldn't count them all.


Funniest one was my buddy "Hump's" party. Great time! We had about an hour to drive home at 4:00 am & about halfway home, we came across a carload of hot girls broke down on the shoulder. As I walked up to help, this girl throws her arms around me & says, "I love you guys!". Yup, the bride to be. LOL Pure coincidence we were on the same path at that exact time of night. We changed the tire and then the bride to be rode home with me so she could help me get Hump into bed.

 

[JimMIA]

Oh it was a long list of stuff.

Friday night we started with a scavenger hunt on the boardwalk. We split into two teams. She was on my team. We had a blast and the two teams met up at a beach bar. We were there for 10 minutes and she wanted to dance. A few girls started dancing and some of us sat to rest our feet after the almost two hour scavenger hunt. After 5 minutes she abruptly said lets go. come to find out she was mad that we didn't want to dance.

After we left there two guys starting walking with us and chatting. They seemed creepy so the bride told them to leave. Someone asked who let them walk with us and someone said the bride. She flipped out cursing and saying it was someone else. The two girls she yelled at were upset but let it go.

After that we hit a bar and she wanted to leave but the rest wanted to stay. She said fine and told us to stop in her room on our way back. She left with her MOH.

Well we did knock on her door but she didn't hear us because they were on the balcony. So she was upset that none of us tried to call her. Ummm sorry but we were all drunk. It didn't cross our minds to call.

The next morning she sent a text that she was going to the beach and she was upset none of us responded. But we all told her the night before we didn't want to go to the beach.

As a last minute decision while she was at the beach we (9 girls in our room) went to breakfast. She's upset that none of us invited her to eat and that she had to find out on IG. Honest mistake. We should've texted her but we thought she was at the beach.

After that we had a cruise around the bay. She's upset that none of us went down to her room to have a drink with her before the cruise. Mind you we were on floor 32 and her on 9. The hotel had two very slow elevators. It took us 15 minutes to get on the elevator at times. And there were 9 girls getting ready in a room with two bathrooms. Time was of the essence.

She was upset that when we met in the lobby for the cruise not everyone said hi to her.

We drove to the cruise in two cars. Her with her MOH and crew and the rest of us in a taxi. She was upset that she "had to look for us" when she got there. We got there 2 minutes before her and walked 25 feet to an outside beach bar and started drinking. When we saw her we yelled and waved our arms and she came right over. When I asked her if she thought it would be better for us to stand in the sun she told me "the beach bar was in the sun too." No it had an awning and who cares anyway!!!

On the cruise she ran from us and wouldn't sit with us. When asked why she said she was sea sick. So we asked her why didn't she tell us and she said because none of us asked.

After the cruise we had to go back and get dressed for dinner. She's upset that no one answered her texts about going to room before dinner to have a drink. No one was on their phones. Everyone was busy getting ready. Hair, makeup, showers. She came to our room and claims none of us talked to her. We were still drunk from the cruise and most don't even remember her being there but the pics prove she was. Also again, 9 girls, 2 bathrooms getting ready for a big night out. It was chaos.

She's mad that her future SIL made her take a shot.

She's mad that no one seemed like they wanted to move so she could be in the center of a group photo.

She's mad because she thought we were going to take a group picture without her.

She's mad because we didn't put her in the limo first (we took a limo to dinner). Some of us got in before her.

At dinner she was upset because we were taking selfies and pictures without her. We were at 3 separate tables.

That's when we ditched her. After dinner. At this point we did not what was wrong but she had completely stopped talking to us. She wouldn't even make eye contact. But we were over her. That whole day she was standoffish.

We found this all out weeks later at the sit down. I told her she was petty at that time. Her DH looked stunned at times but stayed calm and never sided with us which I understand. He has to marry her. lol But you could tell he could see how stupid this all was.

This is why I don't go to bachelorette parties (unless I'm dancing).

 

[usnuzuloose]

We had attended the nephews wedding, they had it in the backyard of the wife's to boss's place. The minister wore his sunglasses the whole time. And then he did not even announce them to the guests as Mr. and Mrs ......he walked away , someone went and grabbed him and made him do it.

 

[lauracitawita]

My first wedding. Lol. I got married in Vegas by The Godfather.

 

[cluvsdisney]

@mi*vida*loca ugh...that sounds like a nightmare and if the bride wanted everything to be exactly the way she wanted, she should have made the plans and communicated them to everyone instead of being a passive aggressive baby about everything.

My worst was a wedding. It was one of DH's friends. The wedding took place right outside Philly which meant we had to stay overnight which was fine.

It was in a museum which I thought was cool. But it turns out the ceremony was on a patio right outside the museum. There was a tent with some heaters but not enough so it was pretty cold sitting there esp since they started almost an hour late.

Then we moved inside for the receiving line which took almost an hour. There were a couple of trays of passed hor d'oerves but they were always empty by the time they came around to us. I still don't know why we waited that long for the receiving line but I guess it's good we did bc we never would have had a chance to speak with the couple for the rest of the night.

The reception starts and the room is jam packed with tables. There was at least an hour of speeches, special songs and dances.

Now we're 3+ hours into this thing and still no food. DH & I were just engaged at the time and his best friend's wife leaned over to give me a wedding tip...don't let your guests starve to death. There wasn't even bread on the table.

It was a buffet...set up in the cold tented area where the ceremony took place. I think we were at table 9,375 so it took another 45 minutes for our table to be called. Of course the food was cold and I was starving. They balked at giving me an extra piece of chicken but relented on extra roll.

There was no table service for drinks, just a pitcher of water on the table. If we wanted something else there was a cash bar set up in the lobby but it was too crowded to bother going out there.

I can't remember if we waited for them to cut the cake but I do remember stopping at McDonalds on the way back to the hotel.

 

[superme80]

Worst bachelorette party was my sisters. No one came! Mine had the potential to be bad, but my friends rescued it at the last minute. My friend who was going to throw it refused after I told her no strippers and no strip club. She didn't know what to do if there were no strippers. Thankfully 2 of my friends stepped in last minute and set up a dinner and mini golf. I had a great time!