I have a 15yo daughter who suffers from anxiety. She has been going through therapy for the past year, but still doesn't seem to know how to cope. I ask her if she has asked either of her therapists on how to deal with anxiety and she said she did, but they don't really offer her any suggestions. I find that a little odd and I will be talking with her therapist. She was on Propanalol to see if that would help and she said it hasn't.
So what sparked this big talk with her today is that she just got her first job prior to Easter. She was hostessing and they trained her to do food expo/running. She hasn't been getting many hours which we found strange because we live in a resort town and these places are pumping with business. She tells us that she hates hostessing because she has to talk to people and that's really hard with her anxiety. She has scoliosis so carrying the big trays hurts her back and she told her manager. She was talking with one of the other hostesses and told her about her anxiety and not liking talking to people (we think this girl told the manager). Anyway, they told her that because of all of this they can only schedule her 1 day a week.
Needless to say she doesn't want to go anywhere else because of the anxiety of asking if they are even hiring let alone starting somewhere new. She blames all of this on her anxiety. Her father is just dumbfounded and doesn't know what to do or how to parent her. He is incredibly frustrated. I am frustrated too because not once has she researched coping mechanisms for her anxiety or how to help ease the pain of her scoliosis.
Anyway, I need some help. The threads on here are a couple of years old so I was hoping that there was newer meds, or a great site that I can direct her to for coping. I am just at a loss.
I am jumping in here to give you my 2 cents. I can offer plenty of advice, BTDT.
Firstly, the propanalol. Get her off that med safely. It is a beta blocker which affects the heart. NOT a good choice for an anxiety med.
Who prescribed the med? I absolutely recommend a psychiatrist for med regulation. IF her psychiatrist was the person that prescribed the propanalol, change psychiatrists.
Next, addressing the scoliosis, get her some physical therapy. She can do PT and exercise to help her.
Counseling. First, she has to be open to getting better. That is a key thing to changing.
Secondly, your dd is 15. You can request a private meeting with the counselor. I would have a "sit down" with this counselor and then determine your next step, either working with this counselor or getting a new one.
In fact, you need to take a more active role in what is going on with your dd and the counselor. I would have co sessions with your dd & counselor.
I have 2 dd's and for the most part when they were minors I was a part of their therapies, either sitting in a session or sitting down with dd and therapist to go over what is going on.