msmayor
Finding my beach...
- Joined
- Jun 29, 2005
You are not kidding, I think the EFC is positively nutty and would only apply to a person with a good job living in a hut with an outhouse in a temperate climate that does not require utilities using public transportation & candles and who eats pasta and PB & J. It does not at all take into account any version of a normal middle class existence - so its designed for the survivalists ROTFL, ain't that a kick in the pants of irony- guess whose laughing now. I have yet to find a single person who saw their number and said, "OH yeah, I got that right on the nose." Its weird, just like the poor kid who worked fingers to the bone to get a little extra on top of financial need provisions and who was denied funding I feel like my husband and I made tons of sacrifices to get ahead for the sake of bettering our lives only to see it swallowed up by trying to help our kids provide for themselves in the ever more competitive future. Its a quicksand existence and I am beyond frustrated that it is taking so much effort to see this through
I will not diminish the fact that your child has worked hard...its admirable and wonderful that she has accomplished so much. But the cold hard truth is that an expensive college education isn't a right, and isn't something a kid 'deserves' because they work hard. My husband works hard...sometimes 70-80 hours a week...but that doesn't mean he deserves a BMW to drive to work.
I'm sure you did make sacrifices...but you also made choices. I see the double-digit number of trips to WDW in your signature. That's a lot of money spent that had the potential to be college savings. I'm not saying you should have saved it...because quite honestly my family took our own share of WDW trips and other expensive vacations over the years. Those were our choices...to spend that money instead of save it. Just like saving for retirement was our choice over saving more for college. That choice had consequences which meant more in loans than originally expected.
Its about finding a school you can reasonably afford (especially if it means loans) and learning that its not necessarily the college name on the degree that will determine your success. Your daughter has already demonstrated that she will work hard to succeed. If she carries that ethic forward it won't matter what school her degree comes from. The achievement she demonstrates in pursuit of that degree will speak volumes.