LovableGluttons
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- Joined
- Jan 12, 2007
Two ways to convey the same message?
DH and are going to prepare for final arrangements this year. Not make monthly payments, just pay for it, have the paperwork set aside, even have a policy in case of death more than 100 miles from home.
It's for our peace of mind that our loved ones won't have to make those decisions when also having to deal with the death of a loved one.
I will say "I don't want to spend that much" if I don't want to pay the asking price.
DH will say "We can't afford it".
I understand our finances are our business, but I feel there are two different messages getting across.
DH's sounds like we don't have the money for it.
What if we do? Wouldn't that be dishonest if we said that when we do have the money?
I feeo like mine is honest. Affording something is not as simple as drawing the funds out of your bank account and paying for something.
I feel like DH's phrase seems dishonest. I want to be more upfront.
If I don't like the asking price on something, bank balance aside, I try to get the price lower.
DH won't do that.
So, are you of the "we can't afford it" set?
Or the other?
DH and are going to prepare for final arrangements this year. Not make monthly payments, just pay for it, have the paperwork set aside, even have a policy in case of death more than 100 miles from home.
It's for our peace of mind that our loved ones won't have to make those decisions when also having to deal with the death of a loved one.
I will say "I don't want to spend that much" if I don't want to pay the asking price.
DH will say "We can't afford it".
I understand our finances are our business, but I feel there are two different messages getting across.
DH's sounds like we don't have the money for it.
What if we do? Wouldn't that be dishonest if we said that when we do have the money?
I feeo like mine is honest. Affording something is not as simple as drawing the funds out of your bank account and paying for something.
I feel like DH's phrase seems dishonest. I want to be more upfront.
If I don't like the asking price on something, bank balance aside, I try to get the price lower.
DH won't do that.
So, are you of the "we can't afford it" set?
Or the other?