ToddyLu
Welcome aboard explorers- I love Mr. Ray
- Joined
- Jun 6, 2008
I think part of the problem is that you are still so young that you haven't fully crossed the line where you step away from your core family unit and move into your adult life. Step mom probably still sees you as a child not as an independent adult. It is easier to say sorry I'm going to stay somewhere different than you when you are older and have been living on your own for years.
OP, do you happen to live with dad and step-mom?
Exactly, if your were 42 and BF were married for 16 years then there would be no question....you would do what you wanted and the rest would do what they wanted. You would automatically know your plans were set and if others joined you they could be resposible for themselves. No questions, every one would have a great time, etc. I think you might not be old enough to realize that this is an OK option to be separated and doin your own thing. As a nurse I know how difficult and how much time it may take your father to get ready for a daily outing in a different place. This may be what is stressing her out but she may need the space and trappings of a condo that help them get him ready for the day.