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But one is illegal and the other is not.But he was okay in cheating? I think that's worse.
But one is illegal and the other is not.But he was okay in cheating? I think that's worse.
Guess it depends where. My lawyer told me to change the locks on my ex and I did so.But one is illegal and the other is not.
It's possible many laws are different in Canada.Guess it depends where. My lawyer told me to change the locks on my ex and I did so.
Honestly many of these responses seemed like they supported a cheating spouse and she was supposed to just accept it,It's possible many laws are different in Canada.
Still, it sounds like you contacted a lawyer for legal advice on how to proceed within the law.
Most of the responses seemed to be more about protecting OP from making a potentially illegal move in a time where judgement could be clouded by hurt/rage/etc.Honestly many of these responses seemed like they supported a cheating spouse and she was supposed to just accept it,
We don't know all the details of the situation. Just seemed to me posters were piling on the OP who was going through a difficult time.
Thanks for your concern on top of everything else my mom spoke to a lawyer and we are in the clearMost of the responses seemed to be more about protecting OP from making a potentially illegal move in a time where judgement could be clouded by hurt/rage/etc.
I don't think anyone was supporting the cheating spouse - I think most were just saying that she needed to tell him that the marriage was over and she wanted to split up, not just sneak his things out of the house and into a hotel while he wasn't home.Honestly many of these responses seemed like they supported a cheating spouse and she was supposed to just accept it,
It sounds like there was some abuse. I would think the priority would to keep the abused wife safe.Most of the responses seemed to be more about protecting OP from making a potentially illegal move in a time where judgement could be clouded by hurt/rage/etc.
Let us not pretend this man was out bed swerving when the OP didn't even accuse him of it. The original post accused him of not cheating physically but emotionally. That is at best an ill defined and ill conceived concept. At it's worst, and often it is at its worst, it's a toxic attempt at emotional manipulation and control on the part of the one making the allegation. He's not here to defend himself. And I can't observe his behavior. But I can observe the posts of his accuser. I was initially sympathetic, but given the the constant and convenient additions and changes to the story, and given the refusal to even entertain, let alone listen to those trying to help her out, I'm no longer convinced he necessarily did anything wrong at all.But he was okay in cheating? I think that's worse.
There was my mom was thrown off thinking if you are willing to talk to my daughter like that in front of me I don’t want to know how you speak to her when I am not aroundIt sounds like there was some abuse. I would think the priority would to keep the abused wife safe.
Then you call the police and THEY handle it. If there's no grounds for a call to the police then you have to evict properly.It sounds like there was some abuse. I would think the priority would to keep the abused wife safe.
Completely opposite of what I was seeing. If you look back at the first parts of the thread you'll see high support for the OP.Honestly many of these responses seemed like they supported a cheating spouse and she was supposed to just accept it,
We don't know all the details of the situation. Just seemed to me posters were piling on the OP who was going through a difficult time.
Correct, there's a difference in arresting someone because they have physically abused someone (not sure how this got added into this thread as I don't recall there being physical abuse mentioned before) thereby removing the present threat at that moment and then doing things like a restraining order and just up and moving someone's stuff without their knowledge to a different place also without their knowledge. The latter is of high concern to people here on this thread because it stands a high chance of not being legal.Then you call the police and THEY handle it. If there's no grounds for a call to the police then you have to evict properly.
We have some very strict housing and eviction laws, especially after Covid. It's good... and bad.. LOL You simply cannot just decide that somebody can't come home anymore and that they now live anywhere but there. If there's abuse you call the police, you get a TRO and they are swiftly and legally removed from the home. And believe me, it's sadly VERY easy for women to get a TRO in a matter of hours. If there are no grounds for a restraining order, you have to end things a different way.Honestly many of these responses seemed like they supported a cheating spouse and she was supposed to just accept it,
We don't know all the details of the situation. Just seemed to me posters were piling on the OP who was going through a difficult time.
I don't think a developmentally delayed guy talking to a co worker is cheating......But he was okay in cheating? I think that's worse.
Not our relationship. We dont know what happened.I don't think a developmentally delayed guy talking to a co worker is cheating......
No but I feel like it is very simple maybe we are different then most couples we don’t have shared belongings@Wendy1985 it is best that you temporarily move out of your shared living space and back into your mom's. Have you and your husband discussed the separation? Does he know you are temporarily moving out? Does he know you want him to move out? Does he know that you are working on having his mom help him in doing so?