Ending a marriage because of no attraction - Update pg 6

[Miskey]

I don't know why kandb chose to resurrect an 8 year old thread, but I'd like to know why the title said there was an update on page 6 but we're only on page 5. Maybe there were a mess of deleted posts. Whatever. Pretty sure the Ops friends have resolved their issues long ago.

I thinks its still quiet interesting, did she stay married to ugly guy and be unhappy or did she find new sexy guy ? did ex find ugly new partner is he happy ? is she?

On these zombie threads, I think we should write the endings because the OP never comes back with closure!!

doesnt Velveeta Chick still post , someone p/m her and ask her to tell us how this ended

The update was post #76. They divorced.

 

[Missy1961]

Yeah, I check dates all the time now.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I have just started dating this AMAZING guy. Too good to be true, bought me 3 dozen roses on our 1st date and is respectful and wonderful etc. etc.

Ohhhh heck... another Zombie thread..

 

[Shyanne]

Well she must of been attracted to him at one time! I think there is more to this!

 

[robinb]

 

[Shyanne]

lol I love the picture!

 

[jevs]

tldr.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

Yes. Yes I do.

me too.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

For the record... This relationship disaster does not involve me

 

[manning]

"She does love him, but doesn't feel as though she's in love with him"

Huh?

 

[low-key]

When she use to post every time I seen her user name I would get hungry for Velveeta Cheese

 

[Disney Doll]

This post seems quite interesting to me.

I have just started dating this AMAZING guy. Too good to be true, bought me 3 dozen roses on our 1st date and is respectful and wonderful etc. etc.

However I am not attracted to him one bit. There is no spark or chemistry.

Now I am 29 years old and have been treated badly by other men that I was attracted to.

I am afraid that I am going to settle with this guy because he treats me like I should be treated, but I have been trying so hard to see him as he sees me and it just isn't working.

Maybe that is what happened with her, she thought she might grow into it and you can sleep with someone you aren't attracted to, it happens quite often.

Woman deserved to be treated with respect and since she did become pregnant, she might have thought it would have grown into something more. But sometimes it just doesn't happen and now unfortunately she is stuck.

Do the guy a favor and break up with him. It's not fair to lead him on.

OP, your friend probably should have thought about this before she got married. But there's no pill that cures stupid. If there was, the inventor would be a zillionaire.

They need to go to counseling, she needs to be honest and see if they can work this out. A good counselor can help lead them to the right decision and help both of them through it and help them help their child through it, if divorce is the decision.

See...it's not just all about her.

 

[Disney Doll]

Ha! Not that they don't have some skills in counseling, but they are not licensed therapists. I would rather her see a therapist.

Neither of us thinks telling him that is the right idea. But if it's the true cause (as it was for me - which BTW I never disclosed to him. We don't talk to this day), then she ends the marriage on a lie. KWIM?

Camicar, when I was younger I dated guys I wasn't crazy attracted to. A guy shows you some attention and when you are young, that in itself is attractive. Now that I have gotten older and know what I want and what will make me happy in life, I know better than to date someone I don't find hot. It happens - we all make compromises and this was one that she made. What was a minor issue back then is a huge one now.

Well she started the marriage on a lie which was cruel. Suddenly she feels the need to be brutally honest?

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

OOOOO A Zombie thread.

7 out of 10 zombies say if a person has a good brain, you should commit to eating them.
2 out of 10 said they have never lost their attraction to brains.
One Zombie started drooling onto our survey form. So we high tailed it out of there and ended the survey.

 

[msjprincess]

Do the guy a favor and break up with him. It's not fair to lead him on.

OP, your friend probably should have thought about this before she got married. But there's no pill that cures stupid. If there was, the inventor would be a zillionaire.

They need to go to counseling, she needs to be honest and see if they can work this out. A good counselor can help lead them to the right decision and help both of them through it and help them help their child through it, if divorce is the decision.

See...it's not just all about her.

The post you quotes is from 2008. Hopefully she's not still leading him on.

 

[Poohlove]

It's too bad that there isn't a way to "lock" a thread after a certain amount of inactivity. Having old threads around for reference is helpful, maybe they contain advice or something else that could be beneficial to others. When I see someone has resurrected one though I just leave it be, no harm no foul.

 

[TLSnell1981]

It's too bad that there isn't a way to "lock" a thread after a certain amount of inactivity. Having old threads around for reference is helpful, maybe they contain advice or something else that could be beneficial to others. When I see someone has resurrected one though I just leave it be, no harm no foul.

I vote NO..don't lock the zombie threads. They're entertaining, especially on a slow day.

 

[L&Lfan]

Loving someone and being in love with someone I've always understood as being two different things.

 

[Poohlove]

I vote NO..don't lock the zombie threads. They're entertaining, especially on a slow day.

They are fun until you read the comments from the zombie thread police who want to call people out for posting on them That is just plain cheese grater on a nerve material.

 

[L&Lfan]

I never understood why zombie threads get certain people in such a dither. Just move on if they bother you.