leebee
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OhMari, they are adorable, and the shirts are PRICELESS! <3
I hate when people refer to my kids as “the twins.”Three sets of twins for us. We had a set and each twin daughter had twins. All naturally conceived. We would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I had the best husband who was a world of help. We didn't raise them as "twins" because we wanted them to have their own identity. Didn't dress them alike. Didn't keep them in the same classes in school. Never referred to them as "twins". They KNEW they were twins we just didn't bill them as such.
So both of our boys along with their wife/girlfriend told us that they were expecting in November. How exciting!!! They're only 13 days apart between both due dates.
Anyhow, our youngest son and his girlfriend are having TWINS!!! We can't wait. We don't know the gender yet but the doctor has told them that they are identical. Here's where my question is.........people have been asking if they're having twin boys/twin girls or one of each. Is it even possible to have identical twins that are of different genders? I dont have the slightest clue when it comes to twins so I did some reading up on it and they say its VERY rare but identical twins CAN be two different genders.
How??? I'm sure it has to do with actual DNA and genetics and whatnot, but to me, identical means identical (meaning they both have the same "nether regions", no?)
Can someone with more brain cells explain it more? Thanks LOL
It’s crazy isn’t it? To top it off, one of mine is a redhead so I’d get all the questions and stories about that too. My DH would stop for people but I learned to smile, nod and move on. Not only were the questions just -geesh what makes them think it’s okay to ask that- but it would literally add an hour to my Walmart run or whatever I was doing which would then mess with that carefully crafted schedule. People just don’t stop to think.Our 4th/5th are identical twins. I know your question has been answered, but just be prepared for questions and comments that will utterly amaze you/the parents. It is amazing how much attention baby twins get and even more amazing at what people (even complete strangers will ask/say). Are they twins? Are they identical? Which one it the good one? My older kids were asked which was their favorite. Are the natural? (yes people that you don't even know will be ok with asking how the babies were conceived). My husband is a triplet, and we still weren't prepared. We are both social people so most of the time we had fun with it. Sometimes it was a bit much though. Twins are amazing though. I mean, EVERY baby is amazing. It's just the twin bond is indescribable and so cool.
Two of my favorite, jaw dropping stories...
(1) This lady said, "Oh. Are they twins?"
Me: "Yes."
Lady: "Are they your first?"
Me (kind of laughing): "No. They're our 4th and 5th."
Lady: "Yikes. I told my husband that if we tried for a 3rd, we'd probably get screwed and have twins too."
Me: "Sorry, but we prefer to use the word blessed!"
(2) Another lady: "Are they twins?"
Me: "Yes."
Lady: "Is there anything wrong with one of them?"
Me (honestly...blank stare with a look that must have said WTH?! I mean, how do you come back from that?
Lady: "Oh. It's just that every set of twins that I know has something wrong with one of them."
Me...still speechless. This was almost 13 years ago (our twins are turning 14 in a couple weeks) and I am still not sure what I could have said.
Best wishes and congrats!
Jess
(1) This lady said, "Oh. Are they twins?"
Me: "Yes."
Lady: "Are they your first?"
Me (kind of laughing): "No. They're our 4th and 5th."
Lady: "Yikes. I told my husband that if we tried for a 3rd, we'd probably get screwed and have twins too."
Me: "Sorry, but we prefer to use the word blessed!"
(2) Another lady: "Are they twins?"
Me: "Yes."
Lady: "Is there anything wrong with one of them?"
Me (honestly...blank stare with a look that must have said WTH?! I mean, how do you come back from that?
Lady: "Oh. It's just that every set of twins that I know has something wrong with one of them."
Me...still speechless. This was almost 13 years ago (our twins are turning 14 in a couple weeks) and I am still not sure what I could have said.
OhMari, they are adorable, and the shirts are PRICELESS! <3
Welcome to the dis, Griff.If the twins are born of different sexes, then it becomes obvious that twins are fraternal since there are no identical twins of different sexes.
You would think so… And yet not a month goes by that someone doesn’t ask if my boy/girl twins are identical or fraternal.If the twins are born of different sexes, then it becomes obvious that twins are fraternal since there are no identical twins of different sexes.
Thanks. It has been a rough year. Both boys and their sister got RSV in August and one of the boys ended up in the hospital, for a week to get his oxygen levels back up. The same one just got tubes in his ears. Both boys have had 8 ear infections. The other one is scheduled to get tubes in now. The whole family had Covid last November and we could not help for many reasons.You know, I'm not even the type of guy to fawn over babies and all that, but I ahve to agree that the shirts are just too dang cute!