OP, don't give your mooching, freeloading sister's broken heart a second thought. It is time for her to put on her big girl panties and start working towards providing for her daughter. Sounds like she is very immature, so I think I see why she is now divorced.
I just want to make sure I understand. You paid to convert your husband's leisure space into a bedroom for your sister. You even provided a separate entrance so she could have privacy. She pays not one dime towards the additional expenses you incur for her and her daughter (although she receives child support for her daughter, she didn't feel that she should pay something to the people actually supporting her daughter????)
You inconvenienced your own daughter by moving your 4 yr old neice into her room, and sister has no problem staying with her boyfriend while you effectively raise your neice. For free.
She works full time, receives child support and lives for free without even the worry of a babysitter when she wants to play house with the boyfriend. And she expects you to either pay to take her and her child to WDW, or delay her trip until somebody else will pay for her child's vacation???? UN-FREAKIN-BELIEVABLE!!!!
You must be married to a saint if he not only put up with a childish sister-in-law and her child living with you, but pays for the priviledge. He even offered to delay his own family's trip to accomodate her temper tantrum. The man must be an angel!
I hope that seeing this all written out makes you see how ridiculous, selfish and over the top your sister's reaction to this is. While you are considering delaying or cancelling your own family's trip and disappointing your children, your sister has absolutely no regard or consideration for your childrens' feelings. She is putting her wants ahead of what you want for your children. How does that make you feel?
Time to cut the apron strings with your sister. If she has been living with you paying for nothing while she collects support for her neice and works full time, then she is taking advantage of you.
Send her boyfriend a simple message: "Mind your own business. This doesn't concern you."
Tell your sister: "We were planning a trip before you moved it, but paying to convert the garage for you and supporting you and Jayda depleted our trip savings and we are now able to start planning again. You have been here for over a year. We love you and Jayda but we need some family time for just us. You are welcome to accompany us on our trip, but you and Jayda will have to have your own room, and you will have to pay all of your expenses. You have 8 months, and no other bills, so you should be able to save a few hundred dollars each month to pay for your trip. If you don't want to do that, we can't help you. We will all go together when Mom pays in 2010."
Don't even consider taking your neice. Take that though right out of your head. Right now with your family's configuration you could still do one room at some resorts (some hold 5, and children under 3 don't count in the total). You add the neice in the mix and now you are looking at two rooms or a family suite at Allstars, minimum. (Personally, I would be staying offsite anyway with that many people, in a 3-4 bdrm rental home or condo, but that is a whole 'nother thread).
Don't let her make you feel guilty. You have nothing to apologize for. She should be kissing your feet for all you have done for her and her daughter, and she should be ashamed of herself for even thinking you should change your plans, let alone actually saying it to you!
I just want to make sure I understand. You paid to convert your husband's leisure space into a bedroom for your sister. You even provided a separate entrance so she could have privacy. She pays not one dime towards the additional expenses you incur for her and her daughter (although she receives child support for her daughter, she didn't feel that she should pay something to the people actually supporting her daughter????)
You inconvenienced your own daughter by moving your 4 yr old neice into her room, and sister has no problem staying with her boyfriend while you effectively raise your neice. For free.
She works full time, receives child support and lives for free without even the worry of a babysitter when she wants to play house with the boyfriend. And she expects you to either pay to take her and her child to WDW, or delay her trip until somebody else will pay for her child's vacation???? UN-FREAKIN-BELIEVABLE!!!!
You must be married to a saint if he not only put up with a childish sister-in-law and her child living with you, but pays for the priviledge. He even offered to delay his own family's trip to accomodate her temper tantrum. The man must be an angel!
I hope that seeing this all written out makes you see how ridiculous, selfish and over the top your sister's reaction to this is. While you are considering delaying or cancelling your own family's trip and disappointing your children, your sister has absolutely no regard or consideration for your childrens' feelings. She is putting her wants ahead of what you want for your children. How does that make you feel?
Time to cut the apron strings with your sister. If she has been living with you paying for nothing while she collects support for her neice and works full time, then she is taking advantage of you.
Send her boyfriend a simple message: "Mind your own business. This doesn't concern you."
Tell your sister: "We were planning a trip before you moved it, but paying to convert the garage for you and supporting you and Jayda depleted our trip savings and we are now able to start planning again. You have been here for over a year. We love you and Jayda but we need some family time for just us. You are welcome to accompany us on our trip, but you and Jayda will have to have your own room, and you will have to pay all of your expenses. You have 8 months, and no other bills, so you should be able to save a few hundred dollars each month to pay for your trip. If you don't want to do that, we can't help you. We will all go together when Mom pays in 2010."
Don't even consider taking your neice. Take that though right out of your head. Right now with your family's configuration you could still do one room at some resorts (some hold 5, and children under 3 don't count in the total). You add the neice in the mix and now you are looking at two rooms or a family suite at Allstars, minimum. (Personally, I would be staying offsite anyway with that many people, in a 3-4 bdrm rental home or condo, but that is a whole 'nother thread).
Don't let her make you feel guilty. You have nothing to apologize for. She should be kissing your feet for all you have done for her and her daughter, and she should be ashamed of herself for even thinking you should change your plans, let alone actually saying it to you!