mrsdisneyfan
Earning My Ears
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- Apr 14, 2005
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I am looking for some advice from anyone who has dealt with Aspergers.
First, I do not know for sure if my son has it. He has never been tested.
He is 7 and in 2nd grade. He does great in school and can spell better than me.
He got his report card 2 weeks ago and it was wonderful. There was a note in with the report card asking for a conference with the teacher. Since the grades were so good I figured the meeting had to be about behavior. Now my son has never met a rule he did not love. He is extremely serious and has NO sense of humor. You cannot kid with him at all.
My husband and I went to the meeting and his teacher said that he is very distracted and does not always know where the class is at. If she calls on him to read he doesn't know the place and if she asks him a question he isn't paying attention.
I asked why it is not reflected in his grades and she said because he still tests good and when she tells him where they are at or repeats the question he always gets it right.
My sister who is a special education teacher has said that she thinks he has Aspergers. I suggested it to the teacher and she said that she did not think so and gave me book to read about it called " Asperger Syndrome & Your Child." The problem is that the more I read the more I think that he does have it and the book was supposed to convince me that I was wrong. Some of the kids in the book have more severe behaviors than my son but still very similar. My sons just does not seem as extreme.
My sister suggested that I have him evaluated. She wrote the letter for me to send asking for evaluation on disorganization, difficulty focusing, small moter planning difficulties and illegible handwriting.
I am all ready to send the letter but my husband does not see any reason to do this. His reasoning is if his grades are so good and there is no problem with behavior he doesn't see any reason. He sees the distraction and not paying attention in class as just spring fever and "kids don't like school."
So after all that, I need advice. Should I press the issue with the husband or
let it go and see what happens? Am I being paranoid and looking for problems? What difference does it make if he has it or not if he is doing well in school?
Any advice or suggestions are welcome.
Thanks
First, I do not know for sure if my son has it. He has never been tested.
He is 7 and in 2nd grade. He does great in school and can spell better than me.
He got his report card 2 weeks ago and it was wonderful. There was a note in with the report card asking for a conference with the teacher. Since the grades were so good I figured the meeting had to be about behavior. Now my son has never met a rule he did not love. He is extremely serious and has NO sense of humor. You cannot kid with him at all.
My husband and I went to the meeting and his teacher said that he is very distracted and does not always know where the class is at. If she calls on him to read he doesn't know the place and if she asks him a question he isn't paying attention.
I asked why it is not reflected in his grades and she said because he still tests good and when she tells him where they are at or repeats the question he always gets it right.
My sister who is a special education teacher has said that she thinks he has Aspergers. I suggested it to the teacher and she said that she did not think so and gave me book to read about it called " Asperger Syndrome & Your Child." The problem is that the more I read the more I think that he does have it and the book was supposed to convince me that I was wrong. Some of the kids in the book have more severe behaviors than my son but still very similar. My sons just does not seem as extreme.
My sister suggested that I have him evaluated. She wrote the letter for me to send asking for evaluation on disorganization, difficulty focusing, small moter planning difficulties and illegible handwriting.
I am all ready to send the letter but my husband does not see any reason to do this. His reasoning is if his grades are so good and there is no problem with behavior he doesn't see any reason. He sees the distraction and not paying attention in class as just spring fever and "kids don't like school."
So after all that, I need advice. Should I press the issue with the husband or
let it go and see what happens? Am I being paranoid and looking for problems? What difference does it make if he has it or not if he is doing well in school?
Any advice or suggestions are welcome.
Thanks