And clearly you are way to involved with this thread. Move on please. I always win because she is my child.
Are you winning? Or, in Dr. Phil speak "and how is that working for you?" You've opened several threads complaining about your in laws. Your inlaws haven't changed, their behavior around your daughter stays the same, and your contentment with them has not increased. Your husband seems to be in avoidance mode - not wanting to rock the boat between you and his mother - which is not a healthy place for a marriage. You seem to demand others change to fill your needs, which would be great if they did - sometimes that does work - but it doesn't seem to be working in this case.
Seems like this is a battle you are losing - or holding in an eternal tie. Your husband, who also has some parental rights, doesn't seem to be fully invested in supporting you against his family - which would make a 'win' possible.