Thank you do much for asking
It went great.
I asked my DD20 ahead of time if it would be awkward for us to do separate checks and she said no - not at all.
So after we met him, I just said - you want to do separate checks? You pay for your kid and I'll pay for mine?
He said yes, that would great.
So we had good conversation and we hung out for about 2 hours.
I'm glad it went well, because my DD's BF is proving himself to be a really great guy and BF, so it's nice to know now that his Dad is very nice too, and not someone we'll dread seeing again. The BF's parents are recently divorced, so one day we'll need to meet the Mom, and hopefully she'll be just as nice as the Dad.
Thank you again for asking, and I'm very grateful for everyone's suggestions and comments