What is the oldest you were being told off by your parents?

[Spinneret]

I would say about 22 , breaking something at their home

 

[georgina]

I would say about 22 , breaking something at their home

I was 55 when my mom died at age 96. She was loudly vocally critical of everyone in her immediate family for her whole life. Even as an adult I didn't wash the dishes right, or clean my home correctly, etc. Sadly that is the reason some of her children and many of her grandchildren avoided being around her for any length of time. My oldest sister left home for college at 18 and rarely ever came home to visit. Definitely affected how I interact with my own children, don't want to follow that example! Oddly, she was super nice and supportive of my cousins.

 

[tvguy]

Only time I remember was when I was about 40. On a family vacation with my mom for a week and really noticed she needed hearing aids. She was 75 at the time. Mentioned it too her, and she got very upset, especially because her siblings were also noticing she wasn't hearing well. I dropped it. Fast forward a month, she calls me and says "I just spent $3,000 of your inheritance on hearing aids, can you come over and help me adjust my TV to a reasonable audio level, so I can have the amplification adjusted".
Of course, our parents and how they treat us and all most of us know, so we don't have anything first hand to compared them too. As an adult, and when I became a parent, I realized how my mom's mindset was to let me make my own choices, and she would support me. That became apparent when I turned 50, and my mom FINALLY felt comfortable telling me, she did not approve of my first career path choice, law enforcement. That career path slowly changed over my 4 years of College, but she never said a word and supported me.

 

[Genie+]

I was 55 when my mom died at age 96. She was loudly vocally critical of everyone in her immediate family for her whole life. Even as an adult I didn't wash the dishes right, or clean my home correctly, etc. Sadly that is the reason some of her children and many of her grandchildren avoided being around her for any length of time. My oldest sister left home for college at 18 and rarely ever came home to visit. Definitely affected how I interact with my own children, don't want to follow that example! Oddly, she was super nice and supportive of my cousins.

I grew up in a family like this on both sides. There’s only one right way to do anything. It’s hard on the people around them though it is just as bad internally, if not worse. Putting those kind of standards on everything including yourself is an agonizing way to live.