Elizakapeka
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- Jun 11, 2016
We are in Chicago and usually give $200-$400 considering cost of venue and how close we are to the bride/groom.
I am being cheap. I am Dutch and therefore stingy by naturereading this thread, I'm wondering if we were being cheap.
That looks lovely! I would consider staying there, if I was in Gloucester for a whale watch. In fact, maybe I'll suggest that to DD, as a weekend getaway for her and her fiance.https://www.beauporthotel.com/ It seemed like there were several weddings that weekend, but besides ocean front ceremonies the weddings had privacy. Everything was great, it was very apparent that weddings are their thing, the timing of everything was amazing.
That is about the most I would expect from an individual. Not uncommon here for groups such as co-workers to pool their money to buy a bigger item or raise the cash total.$100 if it is a very good friend.
Many questions:
What is the average income in your circle of friends? If you are all making millions of dollars each year, yeah, why not give $1,000.
It is more interesting to know what other friends and family give, than strangers on the internet.
But even if you, what are you willing to spend, what do you think is reasonable? You think $1,000 and a bottle of champagne is not enough, why do you think this?
Do you think your friend will be disappointed if the gift is not expensive enough?
Do you know what the friend expects? Has she mentioned she expects a minimum spend.
What would she give if the roles were reversed?
What do you spend on your friends at a birthday or a baby shower? Do you spend this much on your family members?
It was an easy drive from Boston, we spent a night there visiting dd23 and picking up some of her stuff since she sublets in the summer. Made an expensive hotel booking mistake, couldn’t find my reservations at one place so I made another one - at another hotel with a similar name, non refundable. I then realized my mixup and called the original one and yes I did have a reservation. I had to cancel that one. My daughter was impressed with the hotel, for a $1000 a night it should be nice.That looks lovely! I would consider staying there, if I was in Gloucester for a whale watch. In fact, maybe I'll suggest that to DD, as a weekend getaway for her and her fiance.
Generally the physical gifts I've seen given at weddings are sentimental ones -- family heirlooms, special family photos, very especially handmade quilts or handmade lace tablecloths, etc. I'm able to list them because they're specially displayed on a gift table, unwrapped, usually with fancy bow, sometimes with special gift card/letter on display from grandparent, great aunt so and so, etc.I’ve never seen an actual gift given at a wedding, just a receptacle for cards. Last shower I went to was gift free, every gift was sent directly to the couple.
We do y have gift tables set up, so I guess there could be actual gifts that were mailed.Generally the physical gifts I've seen given at weddings are sentimental ones -- family heirlooms, special family photos, very especially handmade quilts or handmade lace tablecloths, etc. I'm able to list them because they're specially displayed on a gift table, unwrapped, usually with fancy bow, sometimes with special gift card/letter on display from grandparent, great aunt so and so, etc.
We just attended a destination wedding in Guadalajara last weekend for one of my employees - she's worked as my admin for the past 7 years (recently promoted to another department). Between flights and hotel, I'm thinking we spent about $1,500. We gave $250 because it felt "right."
...reading this thread, I'm wondering if we were being cheap. I would have certainly given more if we didn't physically go there.
Well said.Saw a post where Bride & Groom included on their website where you RSVP they told guests that their meal was going to cost B&G $128 per person so to take that into consideration when gifting them.My reply would be to include all my costs in attending ... vacation day, hotel, airfare/car expenses, bought meals, new outfits needed, maybe babysitters ........... and then we see who owes who. If you are hosting a destination wedding, or have guests who travel from afar ... you should expect NO gift as they already spending plenty. You were very generous!
And that sounds lovely. But you have to acknowledge you grew up in a different community than most of us. Those gifts were appropriate for your community culture. I think that comment requires some context for people who aren’t long time Disers and don’t know your background.The weddings I went to as a kid and younger adult involved gifts that were made. Furniture, clothing, household items were all standard gifts for the new couple. I never saw money given as a gift for a wedding.
I agree, but it I didn't want to continue to bring it up because I never know if someone might think "dang, we know it already".And that sounds lovely. But you have to acknowledge you grew up in a different community than most of us. Those gifts were appropriate for your community culture. I think that comment requires some context for people who aren’t long time Disers and don’t know your background.
I think for these types of threads it’s important. But hey my opinion is worth less than 2 cents.I agree, but it I didn't want to continue to bring it up because I never know if someone might think "dang, we know it already".![]()
Well, what do you think so far?One of my close friends is getting married at the end of July. We grew up together, but now she lives in a different state so we don't see each other as often. I am a MOH in her wedding, have gone on several wedding events (bach in Nashville, wedding dress shopping, venue hunting, etc). I wanted to see what the "average" for a wedding gift is in different areas. I was planning on maybe $1,000 from myself and my husband with a bottle of nice champagne we purchased in France on our trip about 2 years ago but not sure if that is on point or too small? I figure the $$$$ I've spent to be there (about $2200 including flights, food, hotels, shopping, dress, etc) has to count for something, but I don't want to cheap out on the gift. Besides myself, she is the second in our group of friends to get married so haven't had much experience with knowing what is just right.
Curious to know the average around different geographic areas. For reference, she is just outside of Houston in a suburb called Hunters Creek. It's in a bit more of a "southern uppity" area than where we're at (Los Altos) if that makes a difference lol