amalone1013
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Seriously, flowers are ridiculous. I don't understand it. I'm half tempted to find a field and pick them all. Another pro for you doing paper/crafty flowers is that then you have a keepsake. I had a friend use silk flowers for her bouquet, and then when they bought a house she re-purposed it into a wreath for the door. We're planning on using fancy keys as boutonnieres (can I take a moment and state my loathing for this word? They couldn't think of anything simpler?), and Pinterest has a TON of non-floral options if that's the direction you want to go.
I HATE that word. Everytime I type it on Pinterest, I spell it wrong. Earlier I started to look up the spelling and then thought, screw it and typed bouts I'll have to look up some non-floral ones... or a field...
And I like the wreath idea! My mom had silk and her bouquet is in a box, in the storage room. Along with her veil, guestbook, unity candle... I'd really like to avoid that. I found a girl online who did paper flowers for her wedding, and now she's turning them into nursery decor.
I think part of the reason I'm still considering real flowers is because of this awesome bead @Amanda132 got. I sent in some dried flowers from my mom and grandma's funerals and now I'm impatiently waiting for mine lol. I also ordered a little charm bead to put on my bouquet handle that will have petals from each (plus my great-grandma's funeral). Soooo that was something not in the original budget but I don't think I'll count it because I'll probably put it on a necklace afterwards.
Can't offer much advice on the MOH end...I'm on the receiving end of that one. My BF, the one getting married in July, chose her sorority little to be her MOH, and it hurt a lot more than I realized. I understand her reasoning (she didn't want to have to choose between me and our other BF) but I had to have a couple of long talks with my mom and my other non-MOH BF to fully vent and come to term with my feelings. But. Enough about me. I'm okay with it now. Mostly
I have my BF since 7th grade, and a sister who is 5 years younger than me.
My sister and I had the typical playing one minute, fighting like cats and dogs the next relationship while growing up. And we had a period of super closeness after my mom died. Although we have fun when we do hang out, I tend to be an afterthought to her, and taken for granted (not totally over the fact that I completely threw and organized her grad party after my mom died and not a single single thank you ever... and a few other times I bailed her out of stuff with zero acknowledgement ). And then there's lately with the family drama, where the few times I have heard from her since it's started have all been mean and attacking. Once she even sent me a guilt-trip/trap text, saying she misses talking to me about what's going on in her life, and when I took the bait it turned into an attack related to the family drama. I just don't answer now.
My BF and I have never had a major fight, we actually took a 2 week overseas trip together last fall. We've been through a lot and have always been there for each other - end of major relationship (her), (me), family deaths and drama (both). Her dad is going to officiate for us (I think he knows, but just hasn't been officially asked).
So really, it's just that I'm concerned that I'm expected to have my sister no matter what. And I think that if I would pick my BF my sister would FREAK and be all crazy offended, even with her behavior the last 6 months. She's always been the major drama queen. And then with the family drama it's hard to even go try to talk to her about it before officially choosing - like, I'd like BF, nothing against you, maybe play up the 'less she has to be responsible for' card. Not that I expect MOH to be my slave, but when we got engaged my sister was most concerned that we picked a date where she would be 21 for my wedding and bachelorette... she does not seem to understand what kind of bachelorette I'd rather have.
Ugh. It just sucks because the family drama affects the wedding in so many ways, and it seems that new ways just keep popping up... like with THE DRESS.