Wishing on a star
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 7, 2002
Nope, the thought of death/dying does not freak me out.
You know, I think that our feelings on death and dying can often be dictated by the stage of life that we are in.
OP, you state that you are 'young'... And, I think that what you are experiencing is the revelation of our human mortality. It sounds like this is just hitting you all at once. To you, right now, it is probably a huge scarey, unknown.
To me, death is a natural outcome... it is something that we all have to come to terms with, and live with... And, the longer I live, the more I see that our mortality is not something to be feared... but almost expected and looked forward to.
In other words, I am not scared of death.
I do not believe that death is 'dark and nothing'...
If I did, I don't know how that is something to be scared of?
What scares me are the possible pains and trials of life as we get older.
I am already somewhat physically limited by physical problems.
And, I don't know what could scare me more than living thru things like painful terminal illness, disability, loneliness, etc....
To me, I know that death, when it comes, will be a glorious and wonderful freedom from the limits, and pain, and hunger, that come with living within this human body.
The ONLY thing about death that scares me, is that I couldn't bear the thought of 'leaving' my son before he is a successful, independent, adult. I couldn't bear the thought of leaving him while he still needs me.
Personally, I am at the age where one might describe a mid-life crisis.
While I do not fear death.... I do want to know that I am doing the best that I can in life, and that I am loved by my husband and my son, and that hopefully we will be there for each other for a while yet. Well, my husband knows a guy, our age, his wife had a very very serious life threatening physical situation. (He was granted furlough from Afghanistan to come home for a few weeks.) It is a wonder that she made it... That really hit me, hard... I wondered if her husband had appreciated and loved her every single day in life???? I wondered if it had really hit my husband that way at all????
It is life and how we live it that it is really all about.
You know, I think that our feelings on death and dying can often be dictated by the stage of life that we are in.
OP, you state that you are 'young'... And, I think that what you are experiencing is the revelation of our human mortality. It sounds like this is just hitting you all at once. To you, right now, it is probably a huge scarey, unknown.
To me, death is a natural outcome... it is something that we all have to come to terms with, and live with... And, the longer I live, the more I see that our mortality is not something to be feared... but almost expected and looked forward to.
In other words, I am not scared of death.
I do not believe that death is 'dark and nothing'...
If I did, I don't know how that is something to be scared of?
What scares me are the possible pains and trials of life as we get older.
I am already somewhat physically limited by physical problems.
And, I don't know what could scare me more than living thru things like painful terminal illness, disability, loneliness, etc....
To me, I know that death, when it comes, will be a glorious and wonderful freedom from the limits, and pain, and hunger, that come with living within this human body.
The ONLY thing about death that scares me, is that I couldn't bear the thought of 'leaving' my son before he is a successful, independent, adult. I couldn't bear the thought of leaving him while he still needs me.
Personally, I am at the age where one might describe a mid-life crisis.
While I do not fear death.... I do want to know that I am doing the best that I can in life, and that I am loved by my husband and my son, and that hopefully we will be there for each other for a while yet. Well, my husband knows a guy, our age, his wife had a very very serious life threatening physical situation. (He was granted furlough from Afghanistan to come home for a few weeks.) It is a wonder that she made it... That really hit me, hard... I wondered if her husband had appreciated and loved her every single day in life???? I wondered if it had really hit my husband that way at all????
It is life and how we live it that it is really all about.