Not everyone can adopt, there is criteria that must be met. Should the same criteria and more be applied to those who which to produce a child?
Have we hit a point where we should require that prospective parent(s) receive counseling and training for what to expect before they have a child?
I came up with this after hearing about 5 year olds who steal food every day from the classroom. Why? Because they remember being hungry, hungrier then I have ever been in my life, until they were taken from their parents and put in foster care.No...no....no.... It's mind boggling to me that someone would even come up with this.
Well, most of the answers will be religious or political in nature, so not sure any of us can respond on this forum.
But, as a society we are at an interesting point. In nature, it is survival of the fittest. And what you are proposing is certainly humane, but it is altering the course of nature.
I came up with this after hearing about 5 year olds who steal food every day from the classroom. Why? Because they remember being hungry, hungrier then I have ever been in my life, until they were taken from their parents and put in foster care.
The abuse these children have endured is astonishing.
Unfortunately, many teachers can tell several of these stories. Heard several myself this week from my siser who assisted in a classoom and from my sister in law who is a special ed teacher with 7 children in her 1st grade class who have not only special needs, but difficult family dynamics.
I get the sense that you just want to 'fix' the situation. But that is not something we can do for these children. But we can affect the children in our lives and that is what teachers do every day.
I have read too many stories about kids being abused by their parents either physically or mentally. Too many kids are born into extreme poverty. Too many kids are born to parents who have serious medical and mental conditions that keep them from fully caring for themselves, let alone their child(ren).
Have we hit a point where we should require that prospective parent(s) receive counseling and training for what to expect before they have a child? Should a prospective parent receive financial counseling to understand the true cost of having a child?
Not everyone can adopt, there is criteria that must be met. Should the same criteria and more be applied to those who which to produce a child?
https://adoptionnetwork.com/requirements-to-adopt-a-child
- For domestic and international adoptions, the age of the prospective parents must be legal age, which is 21 years or older. There is also no age cutoff, meaning you can adopt as long as you are 21 or over. Typically for private and independent adoptions, the Birth Mother or parents select the adoptive home, which means their may be an age cut off if the mother so desires. Usually, 40 is the cutoff age, but it is subjective depending upon the preference of the Birth Parents. For international adoptions, age cutoffs depend upon the agency and country you are adopting from. In some counties, older parents are offered older children rather than infants and toddlers.
- Medical Health: Stable medical condition is necessary for prospective Adoptive Parents because it can determine whether or not adoption disruption is likely. If one or both of the parents have a history of a chronic illness or are currently experiencing a serious illness, a letter from their primary physician is needed stating that their physical stability, ability to parent, and expectation to live to a child’s majority (16 years old). Other issues, such as a history of substance abuse, may result in need for rehabilitation, and all other members of the household must prove that they are also physically stable.
- Emotional Health: Stable emotional health is incredibly important for prospective Adoptive Parents. If one or both parents have a current psychiatric illness, or if there is a history of such an illness, a professional statement vouching for their emotional stability is required. A doctor’s statement indicating stability and ability to parent is also needed if there is, or was, medication use. All additional household members must also be emotionally stable in order for the home to be considered safe for the adoptive child.
- Child Abuse History: Any household members over the age of 18 must undergo a child abuse clearance process for every U.S. state. If anything is found, it most likely will prevent adoption all together. For international adoption, the process is the same, but varies with each agency.
- Criminal History: A requirement of the adoption home study, both state and FBI clearances will be conducted for criminal history. If an arrest history is found, you will need to provide personal statements of the incident as well as dispositions. Rehabilitation will then be evaluated if needed. In some cases, certain criminal charges may prevent adoption all together.
- Marital History: Requirements vary for marriage history by adoption Agency and U.S. state, so it is best to check the specific requirements where you live. In some states, samesex partners, domestic partners, and singles may also be able to adopt.
- Financial Security: Though an income requirement is not usually specified, you will have to undergo an assessment to prove that you have the resources necessary to raise a child. The assessment will look over your income and assets, as well as proof of medical insurance.
- Home Environment: A home study will determine whether or not the home is a safe, secure place for a child to live. Requirements may vary depending upon each state’s own safety requirements and some countries may request proof of ownership of the home.
- Adoption and Parenting Education: Education: Some agencies will ask prospective parents to complete Adoptive Parent Education. This includes going over everything from the lifelong implications of adoption on the child and family, bonding and attachment, sharing adoption with the child and others, open or closed adoption, medical issues, academic issues, and emotional and developmental issues.
I came up with this after hearing about 5 year olds who steal food every day from the classroom. Why? Because they remember being hungry, hungrier then I have ever been in my life, until they were taken from their parents and put in foster care.
The abuse these children have endured is astonishing.
Instead of being only outraged, find ways in your community to help feeding the kids that come to school hungry. Donate to food banks
Honestly, I thought she was being facetious. It's frustrating witnessing horrible parenting especially when Department of Children and Families does so little to protect children.No...no....no.... It's mind boggling to me that someone would even come up with this.