In response to the question about if we got married elsewhere it being recognized in our state (for some reason my quote feature wouldn't work)-----yes, technically that is true in New York State. If we got married someplace it was legal (like Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Connecticut, Vermont, D.C., Canada, Spain or a handful of other non-US countries) then it would technically be recognized by New York State....we just can't get legally married IN our state. For the time being we've decided to wait and see if our state won't get its act together and do right by us (and literally thousands of other LGBT families in NY state).....because we think it's pretty disgraceful that as New Yorkers we should have to leave the state that our tax dollars support (or as US Citizens to potentially have to leave the country that our tax dollars support) in order to access our rights. We're fortunate at this point that we're both (relatively) young and in good health and not
entirely financially dependent upon one another (although our finances are certainly 100% co-mingled just like any other family)....so we feel we do have the luxury of waiting to see if we can't be a part of the process of change in our own state. Time, however, will certainly tell how long we decide to stick to that plan.
We're near DC, come on down and make it legal under the cherry blossoms. But I don't think it will happen in Virginia for a long time...
(Because, ironically, we were just last night talking about the possibility of buying wedding bands in Gibraltar or some other port on this trip----because last time we were on the TA we saw many shops in Gibraltar that were selling high end jewelry at discounted prices....so matching rings/wedding bands would be a pretty cool souvenir!
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