cabanafrau
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- May 10, 2006
Regardless of the date, the point remains the same. Many of us managed to go to multiple proms without making a big deal out of asking or being asked. It was assumed that couples would go together. Many people bought expensive dresses, without their date having to formally ask via posters, sticky notes or anything else. If you weren't a couple, a phone call or asking at school was the most that was done. That worked for generations, without girls getting all dress up in their expensive dresses, then being surprised at the last minute, by their date not show up.
It's not surprising that parents of kids that have done this think it's great. We all support our kids. Many who have managed to go to prom, announce their pregnancy, reveal the sex, etc., without making a big deal about it don't see the need for it. Both situations are totally understandable. Personally, I think much of it is over the top, but to each their own. I just don't see a reason to get so upset over it. The hyperbole by some is silly. Support your kid all you want. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. There's no need to greatly exaggerate what others are saying though.
So it's silly hyperbole to condone my daughter doing a promposal? But interestingly the opinions of those who admit promposals aren't a thing where they live have a more valid insight into the trend because they get their info from? Online? The news? Those sources of information are going to feature the OTT. That becomes the stick they measure it all against. That's neither valid or reality in my experience. Neither is the desperate grab for attention or an attempt to make their friends or peers feel inferior in some kind of twisted competition.
I've "condoned" my daughter's behavior of making her boyfriend special Valentine's treats, Christmas gifts and other fun and silly things as well. It's harmless fun. I assume you tag that "making a big deal" of that as well. As far as getting upset -- I think a couple posters in this thread might need to be checked on for how tight they're clutching those pearls in fear that this plague will come to their town. Then there's the "think of the children" brigade who are gushing with the gratitude theirs are too young for this and desperately hoping it won't happen when their moppets reach the age for prom.
I've asked repeatedly, but none of the critics seem to want to answer it directly -- if promposals are happening and you don't see, hear or pay for it, why does it bother you? Don't resort to the kneejerk response involving OTT promposals. What's the harm in a simple promposal between two people wanting to go to prom, whether they're an existing couple or someone simply has the desire to ask someone else to go to prom? Why does it matter to you how they did it? Silly hyperbole by some -- ya think?