I do not have any experience with the hospital you are asking about... Is it a teaching hospital or a cancer treatment center and I would think if your oncologist is setting you up with a melanoma guru, I would take that and run with it.
I have to say melanoma is one of those tough ones like pancreatic, which is what my husband has, I would say and do this.. I would take each day as it comes and go with the doctor's recommendations. Whatever treatment he recommends, I would do my reading on so that you are knowledgeable about the side effects, success rate, etc. Just know this, you are in a battle with a disease that knows no bounds.....gear up and put your armour on and get in there and fight right beside your DH..
Please come here if you need to talk, vent, whatever, we are here for you..