I will say this. My son is almost 10. He is very literal. He sees things, he makes comments on them. Not like "Ew", but he may ask a question like why does your lip look like that. Even though it is not said in a mean way, but I get embarressed by it.
I have been reading on these boards and then went to so other web sites. I think he may have Asberger's. We have a doctor's appointment this coming week and I am going to talk to his doctor about it.
While being literal is a "symptom" of AS, there are much more telling signs, ie : perseveration, minimal to no eye contact, poor social skills, many have sensory integration issues, not knowing "personal space" boundaries, stimming, difficulty with transitions, usually food sensitivity issues, poorer coordination/centering. Enjoy activities like swings, trampoline, rocking, etc....When Aspies say and do things it is not meant maliciously but rather a genuine question or response based on the way THEY see and feel. As difficult as it may "feel" to you, don't be embarrassed!
Good Luck to you. While I hope that the diagnosis is not AS, know that there are many support groups and services and it is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD!!! God Bless!
As far as the original question posted goes, I think it is more important to instill kindness, embrace differences, encourage respect and self confidence rather than trying to come up with an "answer" for all the q's/scenarios that may arise. If all parents instilled these type values in their children the world would be an easier place for those that may be a bit different.
Each child is a gift and each gift is PERFECTLY unique!
Have a wonderful evening everyone!