Why is recruiting people to come to church a bad thing?
Because no means no and should be respected.
For me, it started in elementary school. As the only Jew in my school, I didn't understand why I knew about Christmas but my classmates had no idea about my faith and holidays. Some of the anti-semetic things I heard on the school bus are wild when I think back. One of the worst offenders wanted to catch up during a reunion and had no idea that he'd ever done anything wrong towards me.
In high school came the youth group sneak attacks. Get invited to a Halloween party with a "haunted house" and it wasn't until we got there that I was told it was a church event and the haunted house scenes were all about how non-believers were going to hell. Most others after that I was able to sniff out in advance and pass on.
I now attend weddings and funerals in churches with a bit of trepidation. About half have been fine. The other half involved a sermon about how I'm going to hell and my loved ones are going to hell for not sharing in the same beliefs. I firmly believe that those types of events should be used to sell your organization, but in a positive way, not telling visitors how horrible they are.
I haven't been able to take the High Holidays off for years because I'm a government lawyer. Judges outright refuse to schedule around those days and the DEI department of the county I work for has given me the super unhelpful advice of just continue to ask nicely. But they also cancelled the menorah lighting ceremony this year even though we had about a dozen Christian focused caroling events in the county building as usual.
No, not all of this is outright recruitment. But when I am recruited or asked where I go to church or told to have a blessed day or am gaslit by fans of Christian rock bands that the bands aren't Christian based, it gets OLD.
I am genuinely frightened for my safety and the safety of my LGBTQ family should the Christian nationalists in politics get their way. Perhaps I will be lucky because I don't *look* Jewish. But do not tell me I'm overreacting when the number of anti-Semitic comments and attacks and pro-Nazi protests are increasing by a shocking amount in my community.