home school? what would you do?

[cabanafrau]

Have you read anything the OP has said? Have you looked at any of the context of the comments you quote? Maybe read it again. The entire issue is the child is miserable and is asking her to be pulled out of her school - because of the social situation there. People pick the school situation that fits their family. Some can't or don't want to homeschool, and so they send kids to a brick and mortar school. That is the way things are, not a judgement about them.

This is silly. You are cherry picking parts of what I am saying, ignoring the things that give it any context and arguing that YOUR anecdotes are more valuable. You can look up data about teen suicide and schools playing a part if you would like because it's out there. Yes, it is completely valid to bring up that school mis-match contributes as there is data for it and the OP is trying to decide where her child should be. No, I've never said there aren't also problems with homeschooling, and I've been very up front that there can be. The "homeschoolers can be social" was in response to a post about homeschooling meaning losing out on social activities, and was to point out that homeschool does NOT mean being locked in a room alone. Schools are far from the only place to get social interactions.

Yes, if someone is talking about how many people struggle and have a difficulty with a situation so it's ok to look at choices, someone popping in to say "my family was so happy and had the best experience" IS rubbing it in that they lucked out when the other didn't. I don't know why you seem to want to pick at me. I have no problem with schools. Some people have a rough time and need help finding out what their choices are. Clearly you don't actually want the OP to hear from anyone who has had similar experiences to her.

I see, you're correct, I did mix up the daughter's preference over the course of the thread, which I understood originally and somehow crossed up with something I subsequently read. I do think her preference has to be carefully listened to, and what's at the heart of it understood clearly. Exactly what's behind the therapist's opinion also should be thoroughly understood. If the basis is truly rooted in the wellbeing of the daughter the recommendation should factor into the plan for a way forward. There's no upside to homeschooling a kid if that type of situation isn't suitable for her. (I'm not saying it's not suitable. I'm not saying homeschooling is bad. I'm saying I don't understand the reasoning for such a strong recommendation.) If it's simply anti-homeschool it carries no weight as far as sorting out a solution -- however I would absolutely pursue professional ramifications against the therapist as I outlined above if she's not advocating in her patient's best interest and simply imposing her bias without regard to her patient's needs.

Bottom line is still the same, a solution has to be sorted out to provide this girl a great education and offer her sufficient social outlets to satisfy those needs. That could be homeschool. That could be her current school if things can be properly sorted out and she's willing to branch out her activities and involvement to open up other social channels. That could be a fresh start in a different school. Hopefully a good solution can be found quickly and OP's DD can be happily on her way through HS.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

The OP already asked this question back in November

Thread 'Homeschool and high school'

Nov 6, 2024

DD is having a hard time at school, not just with the school work, but with a lot of "friend" drama. It's very hard to see her so upset and sad all the time. I have gotten her in to dance as I feel like maybe if she makes a friend outside of school that will help. She is also going to be volunteering at our local YMCA in the child watch area. I'm just wondering if it is too late to homeschool. Is there anybody here that has decided to homeschool in the high school years? Thank you so much!

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In that prior thread the OP said their daughter asked every day to be homeschooled and now in this new thread the same thing. 5 months later...

Sometimes situations change, sometimes you try something and hope it works out but clearly there's a whole lot more than just the question of homeschool or not. I'd probably argue that the question of homeschool or not is really irrelevant considering all the information disclosed.

With so many people already intimately aware of the OP's daughter's situation where the OP is located at I don't think those of us on the DIS can provide advice that is actually appropriate, not any more. I only hope that another thread doesn't eventually get created months down the road for no other reason than I would feel immensely for the daughter even more than I already do.

 

[mistysue]

I sympathize with the OP and her daughter, I do realize that not all have an amazing experience as a teen, but you seem to think that’s the majority. It’s not.

I am sincerely happy for you that you enjoyed high school. There is a reason that the media representations in movies, television and books commonly show an experience most people do not desire to go back to, and it's based on the typical issue that those who are happy while there are in the minority.
Take this Yale survey showing 75% of HS students are not happy there -
https://news.yale.edu/2020/01/30/na...eelings-about-high-school-are-mostly-negative - "“Overall,” said co-author Marc Brackett, “students see school as a place where they experience negative emotions.” "
There is a reason articles are titled like this one, and it's not because people are gung-ho about staying in the experience - https://www.theodysseyonline.com/enjoy-high-school-while-it-lasts - the majority of teenagers spend their high school years yearning for it to be over - the clicks, the social drama, the random and inconsistent crack downs in authority.
People tend to move on and gradually think of it more fondly, but it's more common that people are not happy while there. That wasn't you, and that is great, but your experience is not in the majority.

I see, you're correct, I did mix up the daughter's preference over the course of the thread, which I understood originally and somehow crossed up with something I subsequently read. I do think her preference has to be carefully listened to, and what's at the heart of it understood clearly. Exactly what's behind the therapist's opinion also should be thoroughly understood. If the basis is truly rooted in the wellbeing of the daughter the recommendation should factor into the plan for a way forward. There's no upside to homeschooling a kid if that type of situation isn't suitable for her. (I'm not saying it's not suitable. I'm not saying homeschooling is bad. I'm saying I don't understand the reasoning for such a strong recommendation.) If it's simply anti-homeschool it carries no weight as far as sorting out a solution -- however I would absolutely pursue professional ramifications against the therapist as I outlined above if she's not advocating in her patient's best interest and simply imposing her bias without regard to her patient's needs.

Bottom line is still the same, a solution has to be sorted out to provide this girl a great education and offer her sufficient social outlets to satisfy those needs. That could be homeschool. That could be her current school if things can be properly sorted out and she's willing to branch out her activities and involvement to open up other social channels. That could be a fresh start in a different school. Hopefully a good solution can be found quickly and OP's DD can be happily on her way through HS.

You're right - and I really hope the OP gets some good options and makes some move to help her daughter. I would guess the right answer would be enrolling in a different school, or working with some sort of "at home" public or hybrid homeschool program. This would allow her to gather SO MUCH information about what is at the bottom of the troubles. At that point, it would also be obvious whether homeschooling would make sense for this individual. I really never would have thought homeschooling would be good for my kids and have been so surprised by all the options we have, but even that can be night and day different even between counties.