nwdisgal
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- Apr 27, 2002
Ok, I just read the excellent post asking how you handle rude comments in general from people in public with your Autistic child (i.e hidden visibilities and when to explain/not explain behavior) and all the great suggestions from everyone. My question is similiar, but it involves those of you who have kids in sports and how you keep your cool. Today, I had a problem with my DS who is on a mainsteam swim team and hoping you can help.
I went to pick up DS and DD from swim practice and one of the moms was sitting there watching me. As I started to walk off with my son (who has High Functioning Autism) she remarked to her daughter "You don't have to worry now. That boy is out of the pool and won't be bothering you anymore (clearly referring to my son, because he was the only boy in the pool at the time)." She didn't say the remark to my face, waited until I was walking off (but still within earshot), so I stopped for a moment, gave her a dirty glance, then grabbed the assistant coach and asked in a very loud and distinct voice "has my son been misbehaving at swim practice today and bothering other children". The coach told me that DS had been acting up a little bit, but nothing of great concern. The misbehavior (which he didn't even feel necessary to tell me what it was) had been addressed and taken care of. The assistant coach is currently subbing for the regular coach who is on vacation and fairly new to our swim club. So in that case, I also added outloud " You know he has autism, right?" The assistant coach nodded and said "No worries." I just said that so the coach would now what was driving the issues. So everything was cool with the coach. My question is, DS has practice again on Wednesday, and if this woman is there, should I say something to her personally or just let it go, unless she says something again? My son and her daughter will potentially have to share a swim lane because they are in the same age group. DD says these people are new to the swim club.
I did have a talk with DS when we came home about his behavior. I talked to him about what was acceptable at the pool and gave some strategies in case he upset another child. He told me he had been acting up today because he was worried about the other kids beating him at swimming. I told him not worry about what the other kids were doing and just pay attention to his own swimming and listening to the coaches - that is how he'll become a fast swimmer.
I know sports are really hard for kids with Autism and other Special Needs. One of my SLPs told me, alot of it has to do with all the verbal input that is going on during the activity and they have to sort through all of that which is like a maze sometimes. That doesn't even get into the sensory issues they face with water splashing and the tight fitting goggles For those of you that have kids in sports, how do you handle your kids melt downs at practice, or the game, especially with the stage parents and their rude remarks?
I went to pick up DS and DD from swim practice and one of the moms was sitting there watching me. As I started to walk off with my son (who has High Functioning Autism) she remarked to her daughter "You don't have to worry now. That boy is out of the pool and won't be bothering you anymore (clearly referring to my son, because he was the only boy in the pool at the time)." She didn't say the remark to my face, waited until I was walking off (but still within earshot), so I stopped for a moment, gave her a dirty glance, then grabbed the assistant coach and asked in a very loud and distinct voice "has my son been misbehaving at swim practice today and bothering other children". The coach told me that DS had been acting up a little bit, but nothing of great concern. The misbehavior (which he didn't even feel necessary to tell me what it was) had been addressed and taken care of. The assistant coach is currently subbing for the regular coach who is on vacation and fairly new to our swim club. So in that case, I also added outloud " You know he has autism, right?" The assistant coach nodded and said "No worries." I just said that so the coach would now what was driving the issues. So everything was cool with the coach. My question is, DS has practice again on Wednesday, and if this woman is there, should I say something to her personally or just let it go, unless she says something again? My son and her daughter will potentially have to share a swim lane because they are in the same age group. DD says these people are new to the swim club.
I did have a talk with DS when we came home about his behavior. I talked to him about what was acceptable at the pool and gave some strategies in case he upset another child. He told me he had been acting up today because he was worried about the other kids beating him at swimming. I told him not worry about what the other kids were doing and just pay attention to his own swimming and listening to the coaches - that is how he'll become a fast swimmer.
I know sports are really hard for kids with Autism and other Special Needs. One of my SLPs told me, alot of it has to do with all the verbal input that is going on during the activity and they have to sort through all of that which is like a maze sometimes. That doesn't even get into the sensory issues they face with water splashing and the tight fitting goggles For those of you that have kids in sports, how do you handle your kids melt downs at practice, or the game, especially with the stage parents and their rude remarks?