When I was 31 I had to walk away from my house. I was newly divorced and had 2 small kids. I was working 2 jobs. And I just couldn't do it. I loved that house too, bought it when I was only 24, and put my heart into it.
Even got up there and helped put a roof on it.
I didn't have to file bankruptcy. I just gave the house back to the mtg co. I did have it on the market for about 9 months, it did not sell, and then was not able to continue paying.
Life went on.
I did eventually buy a smaller, much more affordable house, and had to move to a more affordable state. I also learned to watch every penny.
You can't do what you can't do.
I was heartsick over it, But life did go on and my credit is good now.
It stayed on my credit report for 7 years.
It does not mean you are a bad or irresponsible or immoral person. You are trying to work with the bank, just as I did.
I just want you to know that I understand how you feel, but money is not worth making yourself sick over. It is only money.
Somethings are just beyond your control.