Pixiedustaway
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Oops...Pixiedust...I apologize! I thought it was meant for Flygirl too. Sorry!!!
No worries.
Oops...Pixiedust...I apologize! I thought it was meant for Flygirl too. Sorry!!!
It is. I can't imagine going to a child's funeral. That poster had my thoughts and prayersI, too, think this post was meant for the OP. Many people seem to read only the OP, and not the rest of the thread, before making comments.
No. In no way was that directed at you. I can't imagine going to a child's funeral. My post was directed to the op. Not you at all.
Thank you for clarifying. It just shocked me. I now understand it wasn't meant for me, and I appreciate you letting me know.
Sorry for the confusion.
This was to the op. She's upset her life is inconvenienced because someone died. They will never see friends or family again. Yet her life is in a tizzy. I've seen worst posts.
Sounds like my stepfather. The best we could do was show up at the cemetery for his burial. No one cried. Honestly, no one cared. We aren't cold people, but he was a vicious b******. It's a sad thing when you've lived your life in such a way that there is not one person who sheds a tear at your passing, isn't it?
Sorry, I took it the wrong way, also. So glad you aren't insensitive.No. In no way was that directed at you. I can't imagine going to a child's funeral. My post was directed to the op. Not you at all.
Sorry, I took it the wrong way, also. So glad you aren't insensitive.
I don't think it is but I know a lot of people don't care to go to certain peoples funerals because they weren't close or didn't care for that person much. I surely understand life circumstances get in the way with money, health, time, jobs, kids, commitments.
ETA: I just think it's a bit flippant to act like it's an inconvenience and say "myworld isn't going to stop turning for a funeral" if it's someone you are close to and love. Not being able to go because of circumstances is one thing but I'm not going to act like it's a drag on my life when there are people mourning the death of someone they love.
A family member dies. When this happens, the world must stop spinning. You have to drop everything in your life. You have to drop a couple thousand dollars on last minute plane tickets to travel. It is really a major disruption and serious expense.
I want people to celebrate my life not mourn me. I know where i'm going when I die and I'm not sad about it. I don't want anyone else to be sad either.
I don't have good, fully formed answers...previous to dying I was an uninterested agnostic, kind of waiting for future intelligence. I got future intelligence, in my death experience, that there is certainly MORE, but I'm not smart enough/enlightened enough to know what that means, other than we should help others in this life. My experience made me start working for our local domestic violence center and our local domestic violence outreach program to the jails. Its not easy, but its very worthwhile. My experience has made my life here SO much more worthwhile. That's all I got. It was profound for me, but I don't think it is in the re-telling.
I'm so sorry that you feel so inconvenienced by the mourning of family members and their funeral traditions. It's probably best that you stay home and save your money if you can't bring yourself to go and support family members in the way they have chosen.
I have. The adult daughter of a coworker. My BIL's father. I go because I want to support those who have lost a loved one.
When my Dad passed away my coworkers were there and some neighbours. None of them had met my Dad. It meant the world to me that they came to be with me on a difficult day. Sometimes it's not always about you but about others and their needs.
Geez, if that was for me I find that really offensive.
Of course I don't want to go! Who in their right mind would want to go to a funeral for a 2 year old child. Let me tell you, NO ONE!
I'm going because it's the right thing to do. I'm going for my friends, and for their sweet daughter.
And I'm releasing some of my pain on here. I didn't realize I couldn't do that.
Wow! Thanks for the "support".
No worries. It's all sorted.Oops...Pixiedust...I apologize! I thought it was meant for Flygirl too. Sorry!!!
Something similar happened to my Mom, and she described the experience to me. Her experience was very clear and left her with a profound sense of joy. It's funny, she was always relieeous and never afraid to die, but after that, she was kind of lookign forward to that next step of her journey. That she was able to discuss it with me made it easier to cope with the deep sadness I felt when she passed on.
I think that there is no one right answer for everyone. I feel strongly about going to a funeral, and I generally will try to pay my respects when a friend loses a loved one. For family? I move Heaven and Earth. But I do understand that my way is not the only way.
This is how I feel and why I go. It works for me.
Oh dear! I am so very sorry for your loss. I have only attended teh funeral of one little one and I pray never to have to do so again.
This thread is timely. I lost my sister on Saturday and my world has turned upside down. I hope that those who come this afternoon and tomorrow are there because they want to be with us. It would break my already bruised heart if people begrudged their time. I can appreciate that these situations are not for everyone, and think that there are many ways to show support. BEtter to find another way to let your family or friend know you care.
This is something I know in my heart, but it doesn't stop me from mourning. My MIL past away three years ago. She was at peace with the process (she had lung cancer). She was a believer and was ready to meet Jesus. My family are all believers as well and believe she is in a better place.
But.she's.not.here.with.us.
I miss her, every day. When planting flowers. When going to a school concert. When taking prom pictures. Every time something stupid happens in the family, I think "I wish we could ask Mom about this." It's selfish. I know it is. But I'm still sad.
Bottom line - everyone deals with death differently and no one should make anyone else feel guilty for how they deal with it. Some need funerals. Some don't. It's that simple.
For those that need funerals, there are usually enough others that also need funerals to support each other. Those that don't need funerals shouldn't "have" to go because of some artificial sense of "that's just what you do".
Oh dear! I am so very sorry for your loss. I have only attended teh funeral of one little one and I pray never to have to do so again.
This thread is timely. I lost my sister on Saturday and my world has turned upside down. I hope that those who come this afternoon and tomorrow are there because they want to be with us. It would break my already bruised heart if people begrudged their time. I can appreciate that these situations are not for everyone, and think that there are many ways to show support. BEtter to find another way to let your family or friend know you care.