I can't do this at home, so I am just sounding off here.
To our "friends" - Sorry we have ruined you NYE plans by having to cancel at the last minute. If it's that hard for you to understand what we are dealing with right now, let me spell it out for you.
It's not like we planned to get a call yesterday afternoon letting us know that DH's oldest sister out in CA passed away the night before. There are a lot of unresolved issue between DH and this sister, that you aren't aware of. The biggest of all that for years it was hidden from him that she is actually his birth mother. So yes, he's taking this one pretty darn hard right now.
To say nothing of the fact that this call comes on the heels of getting a call the morning of the 23rd to let us know that fiancée of the middle sister who lives in town, had passed away that morning after being in Medical ICU for the past 16 days.
Which leads us to the 24th, the day DH's family has traditionally had their Christmas celebration on and would be the first Christmas without his dad, who passed away back in July. Making it a just a tad bit stressful in and of itself - you know a major holiday just after their passing. Add on the shock and grief from the events of the day before.
Oh and lets not forget that DH's mom's dementia has really ramped up since the passing of her husband, to the point where even with live in care, she may need to be moved into a facility that can better care for her. So, just one more thing we have weighing heavy on our hearts and minds.
Put all this on top of the issues DH is dealing with in his own life - an abundance of medical issues that has left him unable to work, in debt up to the eyeballs, and a ton of depression that you are unable to provide and care for your family as the "man of the house" should.
Yea, going out and dancing, drinking, eating and being merry is right there are the top of our to do list to do tonight.
And the PSA - Think twice and twice again about others and what is going on in their lives before making a written comment about them and their "drama". Cause it can and will get back to them and cause a friendship to fracture and cease to be.
To our "friends" - Sorry we have ruined you NYE plans by having to cancel at the last minute. If it's that hard for you to understand what we are dealing with right now, let me spell it out for you.
It's not like we planned to get a call yesterday afternoon letting us know that DH's oldest sister out in CA passed away the night before. There are a lot of unresolved issue between DH and this sister, that you aren't aware of. The biggest of all that for years it was hidden from him that she is actually his birth mother. So yes, he's taking this one pretty darn hard right now.
To say nothing of the fact that this call comes on the heels of getting a call the morning of the 23rd to let us know that fiancée of the middle sister who lives in town, had passed away that morning after being in Medical ICU for the past 16 days.
Which leads us to the 24th, the day DH's family has traditionally had their Christmas celebration on and would be the first Christmas without his dad, who passed away back in July. Making it a just a tad bit stressful in and of itself - you know a major holiday just after their passing. Add on the shock and grief from the events of the day before.
Oh and lets not forget that DH's mom's dementia has really ramped up since the passing of her husband, to the point where even with live in care, she may need to be moved into a facility that can better care for her. So, just one more thing we have weighing heavy on our hearts and minds.
Put all this on top of the issues DH is dealing with in his own life - an abundance of medical issues that has left him unable to work, in debt up to the eyeballs, and a ton of depression that you are unable to provide and care for your family as the "man of the house" should.
Yea, going out and dancing, drinking, eating and being merry is right there are the top of our to do list to do tonight.
And the PSA - Think twice and twice again about others and what is going on in their lives before making a written comment about them and their "drama". Cause it can and will get back to them and cause a friendship to fracture and cease to be.
If they can't understand, they aren't the friends you need.
So sorry OP, and best wishes to your family. 
