emails that are about her buying a new mattress and details about what he'd like to do to her on that new mattress.
ugh. I know you feel sick. I feel sick for you.
I just will never understand why people do this to each other. Don't they think about their spouse(s), children, and self-respect?
Is this woman married? Divorced? Have kids?
Well personally here is what I would do (which may or may not work for you): I wouldn't confront him, if I'd been to counselling for months and thought it was working out to find out he was lying - I would be getting my ducks in a row. By that I mean consulting a good divorce attorney, setting aside some money that he didn't know about and planning a visit home. If I was that far from my family I would tell him I want to take the baby and go for a visit. Pack up my stuff and have the divorce papers served after I left... Now whether that would get me into legal trouble I don't know - that's why I would see the divorce attorney first thing.
I'm so sorry. If it was me, I'd print those emails NOW and then I'd pack the baby and head home for awhile to figure things out. Good luck to you......
Going through his unhappiness was hard enough but I really didn't think he was doing this. We've been in counciling for months and I THOUGHT things were going better. I thought he was commited to trying. Yet there are emails from last night sent while I was at my neighbors.
What the hell am I going to do? I'm a SAHM. We have a 5 month old baby. My best carreer experience is in retail manegement. I live 1500 miles away from any family.
Well personally here is what I would do (which may or may not work for you): I wouldn't confront him, if I'd been to counselling for months and thought it was working out to find out he was lying - I would be getting my ducks in a row. By that I mean consulting a good divorce attorney, setting aside some money that he didn't know about and planning a visit home. If I was that far from my family I would tell him I want to take the baby and go for a visit. Pack up my stuff and have the divorce papers served after I left... Now whether that would get me into legal trouble I don't know - that's why I would see the divorce attorney first thing.
Ohhhh, I am soooo sorry!!!
I agree with everyone else...
If you have not said anything, I would not confront him...
Right now, YOU have all the cards..
The minute this becomes a confrontation, he will then be likely to begin to take any actions that are not in your best interest.
Take action to protect yourself financially, legally, etc...
Can you possibly "take the baby for an extended visit to see your family"...
I wonder if getting out of state before any actions are taken would be in your favor, if you wish to move back home. This is an important question for a lawyer.
I am sooooo sorry!!!
Keep on going to marriage counseling. Tell this to your counselor.
Sorry, but I don't see any sense in continuing counseling when obviously he isn't on the same page.
I've seen my mom in heartache - even to the point of physically fighting with the other woman. Whatever you do - do not stoop to their level.
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Please take care of yourself and your sweet children.... I will be thinking of you.