Hi Thanks everyone . Opinions seem to be across the board which is why this is such a complex point .
To clarify , there are actually 4 different groups that will tour in their own way. Complete freedom to all to join a particular group, move from group to group or make their own way I have been very clear , even providing examples of how many miles we put in a day. This conversation has been had on at Least 3 separate occassions We cannot and do not plan on spending every moment together as it would be a nightmare as too many ages/personalities etc. However there will be daily opportunities to meet up at various meals or activities so no worries that anyone will be left out .
I think I misled y'all My issue is the one person that seems to be insisting on being in the fast touring / prioritize ride group. This will be mainly the 20 year olds Group and the 7 year old. If rhe 7 year old tires out, his parents will be able to take him back to the resort. My own children will be in fast group and they are Disney pros. I don't even try to keep up with them My concern, and theirs is the one cousin that wants to go with them but will not be able to keep up . I get where they are coming from as they are all younger and except the cousin insisting on going with them is 65 and not physically able too. I can't figure out how to get that across to the 1 person as all factors have been pointed out .... I will try another honest conversation and report back
I don't think she's trying to control things but trying to prevent a falling out during or after the trips. I think it's reasonable to want everyone to have realistic expectations before a trip.I think you’re worrying too much. I’d plan the things that we were going to do together and then let everyone make their own way. If the 65 year old goes with what you call “the fast group,” so be it. She’ll keep up or drop back if they are too exhausting. She’s an adult. She can make her own decisions.
Honestly, it seems to me that you’re trying to control too much- group people, decide who can keep up and who cannot, etc…
Also, I’m confused about why travel together if people don’t want to be together.
I have also been on group trips to both Disney and other places. We, also, didn’t plan to spend every minute together but I, also, wouldn’t travel with someone and then tell them that they couldn’t join a grouping because they might hold them back.Time will tell. As long as they aren't expecting people to wait up for them, the older person will quickly realize the physical demands and hopefully adjust their expectations and attitude.
I don't think she's trying to control things but trying to prevent a falling out during or after the trips. I think it's reasonable to want everyone to have realistic expectations before a trip.
She also clarified that they will be together just not all the time. I often travel with my family but doesn't mean we have to be attached at the hip to enjoy the trip or each other.
Perhaps OP is concerned the 20 somethings will feel the polite thing to do is slow down a bit, while really being ticked off that she came.I think you’re worrying too much. I’d plan the things that we were going to do together and then let everyone make their own way. If the 65 year old goes with what you call “the fast group,” so be it. She’ll keep up or drop back if they are too exhausting. She’s an adult. She can make her own decisions.
Honestly, it seems to me that you’re trying to control too much- group people, decide who can keep up and who cannot, etc…
Also, I’m confused about why travel together if people don’t want to be together.
Uff, I get where they are coming from. Maybe instead of calling it the fast group call it the kids group or something. Make it clear that the kids (yes I know they are in their 20s, we are all kids in our parents/grandparents eyes) want to hang out on their own.I think I misled y'all My issue is the one person that seems to be insisting on being in the fast touring / prioritize ride group. This will be mainly the 20 year olds Group and the 7 year old. If rhe 7 year old tires out, his parents will be able to take him back to the resort. My own children will be in fast group and they are Disney pros. I don't even try to keep up with them My concern, and theirs is the one cousin that wants to go with them but will not be able to keep up . I get where they are coming from as they are all younger and except the cousin insisting on going with them is 65 and not physically able too. I can't figure out how to get that across to the 1 person as all factors have been pointed out .... I will try another honest conversation and report back
Maybe it’s family she hasn’t seen for awhile - nieces, nephews, grands etc. Perhaps she saw this trip as a way to catch up and enjoy the kids. I know for my mom it’s all about the children. They being such joy and energy to any get together, and it makes Mom so happy to be included in any event that includes the young ones!Same question as above -- why would a 65 yr old want to hang out with the 20-something crowd? It kind of sounds like either this individual has some difficulty with comprehension, or there is some other aspect triggering their desire. Posted word on a website page or group texts or written discussions may not be the best mode of communication for this individual. If they live with anyone else from the larger family group like a spouse or children, I would solicit that person to help. Otherwise, a direct 1:1 conversation, preferably in-person but phone may be acceptable, is probably the best solution. INVITE her (him? I don't recall) to join YOUR group instead. If they are a singleton without immediate family (spouse, children, etc.), they may welcome the invitation to join others.