This makes me sad every time I see someone write it. We have 5 children and not only is it financially difficult, it is also logistically difficult to get away as often as we would like.
Some of my kids have gone away with friends over the years and it has been a wonderful experience for all of them. We have always given money for food, activities etc (but actually never lodging). I would hate to think that someone wouldn't ask my child to go, just because they couldn't afford to pay MY child's way.
We were the subject of gossip last year because everyone "thought" they knew us. My DD had traveled all spring and had done lots of extra things like prom and new clothes for her trips. She goes to a different school than her church friends so they really had no idea about the trips and prom.
Then we had an unexpected expense when DHs car was totaled and we needed to replace it ASAP. My dream was to own a mustang so we bought a brand new mustang. I had wanted this for over 35 years so it was really a dream come true.
Then the church decided to go to camp as a group and take a mission trip to Atlanta. DD wanted to do both. Sorry, no extra money to take another trip and go to camp. Add to the fact we were taking a family trip with our other 2 children and DDIL.
I was getting calls from the church offering to fund the trips, getting calls about how much she will get from these trips, getting calls about how she will be missed.
It was embarrassing to be the person driving around in the new mustang, taking my family on a trip to Universal, but not letting her go on a mission trip and to church camp.
People assumed because we had the new car and were traveling we had the extra money to do these things, but that wasn't the case. So we were the topic of conversation as to why we denying DD these things when we seemed like we could well afford them.
Sending money for food and activities is different than airfare and WDW tickets. My kids have traveled with friends over the years and we have also always sent money for food and their activities and that isn't anything like the money involved for WDW tickets and airfare. Depending on where you live, the airfare alone is several hundred dollars and then its another several hundred dollars in tickets plus the cost of spending money and you could well have over $1000.