Everyone keeps telling me that it isn't worth spending money on the room because you don't spend much time there.
This is not necessarily true, it really depends on the person (or group of people) going.
First, are you the kind of person/group to be a vacation commando? Meaning...on any vacation, do you leave your hotel or vacation rental and go go go all day without breaks? Be it the beach or skiing or weekend trip to a nearby city or Six Flags, are you the kind of people to always be on the go? OR, do you like to take breaks during the day? Do you head back to your condo at the beach for naps? Do your kids like down time at pools? Do they like slides? Do you enjoy sitting down for meals close to your hotel? Or is fast food what your family thrives on? When you get away for a break, do you enjoy relaxing as much as sight seeing? Your vacation style elsewhere will likely mirror your vacation style at WDW.
I'm guessing that this is your first trip to WDW. Now, given that it's your first trip, even if you're usually the "we like breaks and we're not dawn to midnight tourists", you might still feel the need to go all day without stop b/c it's Disney. Especially if you're staying, say, five nights instead of seven or more.
My family (when I was a wee girl of 9) did that our first trip. Our next three trips, we took it easy and enjoyed downtime at our resorts. Now that I'm an adult with kids myself...we still take it easy. My kids love pool time (and slides). I like afternoon naps. We go to the parks early and either have a breakfast ADR or, more often, have a late lunch ADR. Then we head back to our resort for a break, nap, pool time, etc. Then we head out to the parks late in the afternoon or in the early evening. We really enjoy ourself doing it that way and would be miserable going all day long without a break. So...when choosing a resort, keep your personal style in mind.
1. If you think you're going to be rope drop till closing tourists, go value all the way.
2. Adding onto that...if you think you're going to be rope drop till closing tourists...and if a smaller room isn't going to cramp your style overmuch (and it shouldn't with very young kids), if you're find with only quick service food vs having a sit down option at your resort, and if your kids might like the pool but aren't pool/slide demons, go value all the way.
3. If some of the above apply to you but others don't (say you're mostly rope drop till closing and you're ok with quick service food...but you want extra room and your kids will want a day or so hanging out at a pool with a slide), consider a moderate.
3. If you're not the type of family to go go go all day long...even if you're ok with quick service food/pool without a slide/a smaller room...I'd go with a mod. The more you stay at your resort, even if it's for midday naps and a quick dip in the pool, IMO the more you'd appreciate what a mod offers...things like extra room, bigger/more comfy beds, nicer (IMO) theming, etc.
4. If you're most definitely not the type of family to go all day long and if your kids really like pool time with slides (as mine do), definitely go for a moderate.
If you're staying value, I'd go with AoA, but that's my personal style preference. I've stayed at both CBR and POR, and I'd personally go with POR due to its great gift shop, great counter service, lovely grounds and room, ability to visit pools at both Riverside and FQ, and boat to Disney Springs and shops there. However, smaller kids might like the CBR pool better (if you're pool people) than those at POR...and CBR's rooms are very recently refurb'd, always a bonus.