LisaR
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This was going to be my question as well...
But she also let him go to a friend's house even though he has been disrespectful, rude and misbehaved up until this point...once again why is he getting to have a life he he is being so awful
Punishing him today because he was rude and disrespectful two days ago isn't going to make sense. The time to handle that was then not now.
I view today as a new day. The OP'er has received some great advice on how to handle his behavior going forward. Cleaning his room would have been a problem yesterday or the day before. Today she gave him a very clear message: clean your room first, then you can go out. It worked. That is step one.
School is another issue. I would certainly look at that progress report as a red flag, but again, it happened in the past when the OP'er wouldn't have handled it properly. This time she talked with her son and emailed the teacher. Let's cut her a little slack and see if she can find a productive way of handling this better than she would have in the past. He still managed to pull off all A's. He was talking in two classes. I don't think that is earth shattering for a 12 y/o. She said she addressed it. Hopefully she laid down very clear consequences for what will happen if he does this again. I think it is the right step at this point. They don't have the greatest relationship and piling everything on at once isn't the solution.