He probably figured it would be over after he said that and is probably wondering why she is still sticking around.
(PS: I still do not believe how many people are assuming that a 21 year old adult is not old enough to considering their future...
And I do not believe how many people think a 21 year old should be looking at every relationship as a potential mate.
No, please try to convince me: Please present the objective evidence that there only one person for everyone. I truly believe you're wrong about that, and have seen no reason to even assume the alternative could practically be possible.Not true but if it makes you happy to believe that then okay.
And I do not believe how many people think a 21 year old should be looking at every relationship as a potential mate.
No, please try to convince me: Please present the objective evidence that there only one person for everyone. I truly believe you're wrong about that, and have seen no reason to even assume the alternative could practically be possible.
Interesting, I was always told not to date anyone who wasn't a potential mate.
Of course, that didn't mean you were marrying them--just meant if it was the type person you would not marry, don't date'em.
And to be clear, AFAWK, the OP's daughter's boyfriend didn't say, "You're not the type of person I would consider marrying."...just that he should be the type of person I would consider marrying.
Interesting, I was always told not to date anyone who wasn't a potential mate.
Of course, that didn't mean you were marrying them--just meant if it was the type person you would not marry, don't date'em.
No, please try to convince me: Please present the objective evidence that there only one person for everyone. I truly believe you're wrong about that, and have seen no reason to even assume the alternative could practically be possible.
Short of something really obvious (like the homeless drunk lying in the gutter who asks you on a date as you walk by) how would you know whether someone was or wasn't a potential mate until you dated them?
I never really excluded anyone based on looks or social position, which can be the only 2 really obvious things that I can think of...and even social position is "iffy" as far as being obvious.
Truthfully, I dated some very nice guys who, on first glance, might not have been what one would have considered "mate" material. I enjoyed my time with them, learned new things, learned things about myself, was sometimes exposed to experiences I might not have had otherwise because they were different. I do not consider any of them a waste of time because they were not necessarily "potential mates".
On the flip side, I dated a few guys who most people would consider "dream mates" who turned out to be flaming...idiots (gotta keep it DIS-friendly). One fella in particular stands out...good-looking, good job, well-to-do family...every girl's dream right? Except for that "pesky" cocaine habit, which I found out about on date #3, so there wasn't a date #4. Amazingly enough, he was shocked that "that one little thing" bothered me so much because he was such a "catch".
To the OP, I still think I'd drop this guy down to the "non-exclusive" level, and look around a bit for other dates. But if he is a nice guy who company I enjoyed, I wouldn't drop him completely. Clearly I am in the minority, since the majority seems to think that a 21 year old should be choosing a life mate.
I'm weird, too, Tina. Then again, I grew up with a mother who told me, "You don't have to want to marry every man you date. Go, have dinner, have fun."
This young man seems like he has been very honest with the OP's dd and to me, that is a huge point in his favor. If she were my dd, I'd tell her "Stay friends, go out, enjoy his company--but don't start planning your wedding." Who knows what will happen over the next year? They're both very young and have plenty of time.