I am so so sorry. I think that miscarriage can be one of the hardest experiences. My heart goes out to you.
This book helped me a lot: Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg. It is a Christian based book with room for journaling and I found it to be a huge comfort.
I went to my 14 week check up on 9/13/01 and they discovered I had lost the baby. It was a missed miscarriage, I had no symptoms nor any idea that something had gone wrong. As much as my DH and family and friends tried to help and be a comfort (and they were great, they really tried) I still found it to be a very lonely experience. At 14 weeks it was I who thought of this baby each day and had the closest connection. It was still a sort of surreal thing for my DH, I wasn't showing really, he couldn't feel kicking, so it was hard for him to grieve when he hadn't had that connection yet. At this time we had 2 dds and we did go on to have our ds who was such a bright light after this experience.
I think finding a miscarriage board can be helpful. It helps to talk with people who know what you are going through and can empathize with you. I think everyone deals with it and grieves in their own unique way but it can help to have a group of people who have walked in your shoes to talk with.
My prayers are with you for healing and comfort....
Allyson