wenrob
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 14, 2008
Honestly, I don’t miss the big family gatherings at all. In my case there’s more to it than people who like to poke at you to rile you up. Some of them were just plain mean and hateful and then say things like “oh you’re being sensitive” or “I was just teasing, don’t be so serious” etc. Add in that they stopped contributing to the meal or helping to clean up and I was just done. “Family” is just a word. If I won’t let strangers treat me like that I sure as hell am not going to let them do that to me just because we’re related. I seriously have not had a bad or stressful holiday since stopping the madness. I get comments about it every once in awhile but not one of them has ever decided to pick up the mantle and do the holidays at their house.This is what my family did too. We stopped inviting the pot stirrers to holidays and although our gathering is small (4 people total), it's way more peaceful than it was in the past. I don't even miss their presence that much if I'm being completely honest.