KristenRB
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Remembered seeing a link to a video of such activities on DCL on an old post. Here is a sample of a day in the life... http://youtu.be/TXrNr1Cuypk
This is the most disturbing things I've ever seen.
Remembered seeing a link to a video of such activities on DCL on an old post. Here is a sample of a day in the life... http://youtu.be/TXrNr1Cuypk
This has come up with my husband and me before, and I would like to know the etiquette on this, if you don't mind. If your tablemates do not care to participate in Grace, are they to sit quietly while you pray, or can they eat or continue talking? I honestly am curious, and hope this doesn't sound rude. I'm genuinely interested, because I have no problem if Grace is brief (we're talking Catholic brief), but in my experience, there is nothing brief about some religions' versions of Grace (personal experience, based on the extended family I married into). Thanks, if you feel like answering.
So you were on DCL in one of the MDR's and NOT at Macaroni Grill?? Because using the crayons on the "tablecloths" there is perfectly acceptable ... Maybe he was confused
Amen, We should cruise together, oh wait I think we already are in about 85 days!
I seriously think there should be a table mate selection criteria. Here is twindaddy's. I fully admit my biases:
1. Are you going to be more than 15 minutes past the assigned seating time EVERY night?
2. Are you going to be rude, demeaning, or feel you are better than our serving staff?
If so, we are not a match. Just about anything else, other than flossing or toe sucking, I can work with.
I mean, who knows, maybe toes taste good? And who isnt in favor of good dental hygiene?
Well, in my opinion, it is poor etiquette to make your tablemates uncomfortable with an overly long pre-dinner prayer. If you generally offer a protracted, spoken grace before a meal and will be having tablemates who may or may not share your beliefs/practices, I think good etiquette would have you either ask your tablemates if they would be comfortable joining you, say grace as a family in a more private setting to ensure that you are not making your tablemates uncomfortable, or make your grace a brief bowed head/"bless this meal and those who prepared and serve it" prayer instead of the 5 minute dissertation that might be the norm when you are at home.Thanks for the responses. Catholic Grace is really brief, and I can sit through that quietly & politely, no problem. A quick blessing of food is one thing. My husband's extended family is what I not-so-politely call "Jesus Bullies." The kind that make you hold hands, bow your heads, and then recite a litany of everything they are grateful for and who needs to be watched over, etc., before every meal. And you don't have a choice. My husband and I both hate it, but tolerate it since they are family. I'm not sure I could handle that on a cruise with strangers, however. Always wondered the etiquette on this.
Well, in my opinion, it is poor etiquette to make your tablemates uncomfortable with an overly long pre-dinner prayer. If you generally offer a protracted, spoken grace before a meal and will be having tablemates who may or may not share your beliefs/practices, I think good etiquette would have you either ask your tablemates if they would be comfortable joining you, say grace as a family in a more private setting to ensure that you are not making your tablemates uncomfortable, or make your grace a brief bowed head/"bless this meal and those who prepared and serve it" prayer instead of the 5 minute dissertation that might be the norm when you are at home.
If you do not say grace, it would be polite to try to maintain a respectful silence during your tablemates' prayers, provided they keep it a reasonable length of time. After all, even if you are an athiest, you can still offer thanks/good thoughts for those who have prepared and are serving you the meal.
If it's a few lines, fine, I can wait, but if it goes on, I'm going to start in on my food or resume my conversation. If they are particularly longwinded, I'm asking to be moved because I'm not comfortable with that.
This thread is enough to give a girl a complex. So, I may get to a table and find crazy baby people who suck toes and floss when they are finished. Or, if my dinner mates aren't crazy then I have to face that I might be the *one in every crowd."
I have to face I can be dumped as a dinner mate for:
1. Not drinking
2. Drinking [particularly if my consumption is more than whatever arbitrary quantity the assigned table mate decides is too much]
3. Not talking
4. Talking about any topic that my assigned companion finds dull, uninteresting or on the wrong side of a political fence.
5. Not sharing enough directly to conversation.
6. Sharing too much.
7. Speaking too much to my family.
8. Not speaking enough to my family and therefore suggesting we are not getting along.
9. Not liking my food and asking for another meal.
10. Not being selective enough in my ordering and getting too much food
11. Being too picky about my food.
12. Having a hobby that the assigned companion thinks is weird.
13. Having too large of an age gap with my husband.
14. Saying grace before my meal. (I could also imagine if I were willing to not say grace that I could still potentially offend someone at the table).
and I imagine that my wardrobe choice could also merit being jettisoned, if I am too formal or too casual depending on the night.
To think, these are just the fatal faux pas that I can commit on my own. Double the list for my spouse and add in all the havoc a child can put into the situation if he wants to visit with the other party's child..or worse if he doesn't. Don't even get me going on the manners issue - if he uses them will we be called *snobby* if he doesn't we will be uncouth. Etc. Etc. Etc.
Any one issue and we will be doing the walk of shame to another table. Then you have a whole other opportunity to be rejected again. Is there a cut off point where you are just deemed a dinner failure by the crew and seated by yourself?
Then you still have to deal with the awkwardness of seeing the *dumpers* again...what if they are on the same shore excursions? Or seated next to you in a show? Do you pretend that you have never met? What if their cabin is near yours - and you find yourself on the same elevator?
Add it all together and I think maybe I should just plan on alot of buffet dinners and room service on the cruise to save the therapy bills after we get home.
This has come up with my husband and me before, and I would like to know the etiquette on this, if you don't mind. If your tablemates do not care to participate in Grace, are they to sit quietly while you pray, or can they eat or continue talking? I honestly am curious, and hope this doesn't sound rude. I'm genuinely interested, because I have no problem if Grace is brief (we're talking Catholic brief), but in my experience, there is nothing brief about some religions' versions of Grace (personal experience, based on the extended family I married into). Thanks, if you feel like answering.
Actually, I'm not sure that would work out. I am from Quebec after all and you said you wouldn't be seen with anyone wearing A Canadiens shirt....
Always wondered the etiquette on this.
There is none. If they have none, neither should you.
Have does praying at a table show you have no etiquette, if you do it quickly and quietly and without making a big deal of it?
I am sure YOU do things that people think show no etiquette, should we be as judgmental and harsh as your are? Or should maybe they give you the benefit of the doubt to see what kind of person you are first?
Have does praying at a table show you have no etiquette, if you do it quickly and quietly and without making a big deal of it? I am sure YOU do things that people think show no etiquette, should we be as judgmental and harsh as your are? Or should maybe they give you the benefit of the doubt to see what kind of person you are first?
Have does praying at a table show you have no etiquette, if you do it quickly and quietly and without making a big deal of it?
I am sure YOU do things that people think show no etiquette, should we be as judgmental and harsh as your are? Or should maybe they give you the benefit of the doubt to see what kind of person you are first?