OMG. Can you send what you wrote to every teenage girl and young (and the not so young of us?) woman in the US? If every woman got "it" that it is ok to expect appreciation and respect it would save a lot of heartache. I know that I finally woke up after about 13 years (not married but an on again/off again relationship) and realized I deserved to be respected and then I met a wonderful guy who is everything the ex was not.
I think many women marry/date a guy and think if they do all this wonderful stuff for them, then they will get that same appreciation back. The guy in the relationship is thinking, this chick is doing all this for me and I don't have to do anything. So they never do. Then we get mad when they don;t but the truth is, they showed their true colors from the beginning. My first year of marriage was not any different than the last. I was the idiot not him because I expected a donkey to become a stallion, when he was very happy
being a donkey.
You have some wonderful insights and experiences not to mention great writing ability. You should think about trying to write professionally.
Jill in CO